You laugh, but look up no touching policies in schools. Some of them prohibit students from hugging each other. We’re going to end up with a bunch of traumatized adults who received no human contact as children.
On that, I’m one of those oh so delightful high functioning spectrum types who can’t fucking stand anybody touching me. In spite of this, I also recognize the base human need for touch for people who aren’t me. These policies are going to hurt people.
I’m not a sociologist, and probably there is someone who knows what they’re talking about who has done actual research and maybe written an actual paper I just haven’t seen. But I have this theory that humans need some level of discomfort.
In part, I think the brain gets stronger when challenged. It needs practical challenges, not just artificial challenges. And in part, I think that suffering is relative. Those people who freak out about getting the wrong color iPhone? It’s literally the worst thing that’s ever happened to them, and they have no coping skills.
All that to say… We’re definitely fucking ourselves up by trying to make things TOO safe and comfortable.
Personally, I think everyone should go through at least one crisis when they are adolescents so they know how to handle things, or at least what traits they need to get under control. If you never experience something going wrong, when you can still bounce back, you will never survive “rolling snake eyes” and getting hit by a bad event.
Then again, some training on coping skills and then created scenarios where people must then use said coping skills (e.g. get left in the wild for 2 days with some food, a tent and the ability to chicken out on the condition they retake the course) would probably work as well.
This is a thing in some scouting programs, and I hear it’s a pretty common thing in the Netherlands to drop teens in the woods and let them figure their way back.
Certainly on the bigger instances. If you go off the beaten track a little bit you tend to fund the old small subreddit experience. You know all the ones that are about cats in trees or wood working.
Those niche subs aren’t worthwhile here yet. They’re just filled with losers who insist they’re 100% right about everything all the time or they’re losers with nothing better to do than sit online and troll.
Yes, the Milkybars are on me. I’m just entertaining myself. Normally I’d go for a run but I think I’m a bit depressed, I don’t seem to be able to snap out of it.
Actually that’s sexual assault. You can still ask if she’s okay without threatening her with sexual assault.
Asking for consent is now sexual assault?
Got it, so don’t ask first right?
Why ask if you’ll be prosecuted anyway
Your mere existence is threatening.
What part of !asking! if they want a hug makes it sexual assault? What part of a hug is sexual???
This type of person probably thinks two guys hugging is gay. I’m straight but I’ll take a hug from anyone. I love hugs.
Distance might be a factor. So could I just send you a virtual mana wave? Chur =)
Hey! You dropped this 🧠
I’ve been looking for that for ages. Cheers.
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Outstanding effort!
No point will be awarded.
+2
Okay, buddy.
Maybe we should… hold hands
No no youre right. Too salacious.
Even if you count a hug as sexual assault, that wasn’t a threat like I’ll hug you if you don’t shut the fuck up, it was just an offer of a hug.
Do you need a hug?
Potentially, A/S/L?
Information age / yes / Terra
Damn, you’re right. I am talking to the internet. It really is that bad.
Excuse me, this comment it literally rape because it uses the word sexual and I wasn’t prepared. Please escort yourself to your local PD.
Shit!
It isn’t assault if you get permission first. WTF.
If a hug is sexual assault, then all kids are sexual predators 😂
You laugh, but look up no touching policies in schools. Some of them prohibit students from hugging each other. We’re going to end up with a bunch of traumatized adults who received no human contact as children.
On that, I’m one of those oh so delightful high functioning spectrum types who can’t fucking stand anybody touching me. In spite of this, I also recognize the base human need for touch for people who aren’t me. These policies are going to hurt people.
I’m not a sociologist, and probably there is someone who knows what they’re talking about who has done actual research and maybe written an actual paper I just haven’t seen. But I have this theory that humans need some level of discomfort.
In part, I think the brain gets stronger when challenged. It needs practical challenges, not just artificial challenges. And in part, I think that suffering is relative. Those people who freak out about getting the wrong color iPhone? It’s literally the worst thing that’s ever happened to them, and they have no coping skills.
All that to say… We’re definitely fucking ourselves up by trying to make things TOO safe and comfortable.
Personally, I think everyone should go through at least one crisis when they are adolescents so they know how to handle things, or at least what traits they need to get under control. If you never experience something going wrong, when you can still bounce back, you will never survive “rolling snake eyes” and getting hit by a bad event.
Then again, some training on coping skills and then created scenarios where people must then use said coping skills (e.g. get left in the wild for 2 days with some food, a tent and the ability to chicken out on the condition they retake the course) would probably work as well.
This is a thing in some scouting programs, and I hear it’s a pretty common thing in the Netherlands to drop teens in the woods and let them figure their way back.
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I love this site LoL. The people here are all the dumbest parts of Reddit, Tumblr and twitter rolled into one glowing repository of stupidity.
Certainly on the bigger instances. If you go off the beaten track a little bit you tend to fund the old small subreddit experience. You know all the ones that are about cats in trees or wood working.
Yeah you mean the ones with 0 comments on every post?
maybe make some comments and get a conversation flowing
Those niche subs aren’t worthwhile here yet. They’re just filled with losers who insist they’re 100% right about everything all the time or they’re losers with nothing better to do than sit online and troll.
I am studying, this is my Pomodoro rest activity. However, I am definitely a loser, you’ve got me there.
All right well you’re not invited then
🎣
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Yes, the Milkybars are on me. I’m just entertaining myself. Normally I’d go for a run but I think I’m a bit depressed, I don’t seem to be able to snap out of it.
Well you impressed me today with -121 devote and counting. Weather’s getting nicer so maybe next week eh?
Oh yes, I’m ready for it.