• GreenBeanMachine@lemmy.world
    151·
    3 天前

    Who’s expectation? Doesn’t make sense. Certainly no woman who had a period thinks like the first panel. And certain no man who had a bleeding girlfriend thinks like the first panel.

  • Tattorack@lemmy.world
    35·
    3 天前

    I don’t understand. I’ve literally never heard as pre-menstrual syndrome portrayed positively like that.

      • boonhet
        11·
        3 天前

        Idk, I knew PMS was supposed to be unpleasant before I ever had my first girlfriend. It’s not exactly unknown information, there’s plenty of boomer humour of “wife bad, but especially when PMS” type shit.

        I think to have expectations like this you need to be from a super sheltered/religious upbringing.

        • Tattorack@lemmy.world
          4·
          3 天前

          Even then, this idea has to come from somewhere.

          Unless being exposed to PMS in some way, why would a guy even think about it?

          So where does it come from?

          • brucethemoose@lemmy.world
            2·
            3 天前

            My guess: the “primitive” go-back-to-manly-cavemen manosphere stuff.

            It sounds like some fantasy of what “should” happen to a pre-civilization woman.

            Mix it up with ovulation, and I bet there’s a distant grain of truth there. If I were an isolated guy listening to podcast bros all day, I might even buy it.

  • brownsugga@lemmy.world
    13·
    3 天前

    PSA from the husband of a black woman: if your period is intensely painful, or goes on too long, or really weakens you, ask your OB to look for fibroids. They are “benign” but affect women of color especially black women a lot more than average

    • AlaknárEnglish
      3·
      2 天前

      Also, especially in the US, probably go with your partner to ensure she gets the help she needs. I’ve read too many stories where doctors ignore women, especially women of colour, especially Black, especially with menstrual-related issues, until “the man” steps in and confirms that no, the excessive bleeding is not, in fact, caused by hysteria.

  • abysmalpoptart@lemmy.world
    50·
    4 天前

    I’m a guy, so maybe it’s because I’m not a woman, but I definitely don’t understand the joke here. Does anyone actually expect the left side? I’ve quite literally never once heard anything to suggest that pms is some sort of a positive experience (definitely not a “sexy” one).

    • Mothra@mander.xyz
      40·
      4 天前

      Hello, I’m a woman so let me confirm: No, nobody. Some people expect slightly bigger boobs or they know they get a libido peak right before the period, but that’s about it.

      Probably there is a minority that engages successfully in period sex and looks forward to it, but that would be niche, not something you’d expect most people to relate to.

      Never heard anyone say they expect silky hair right before their period, or the skin glow. Most people expect bloating to some degree, I haven’t heard anyone looking forward to it either.

      So yeah TLDR some of these things can be true for some people but rarely all and you would hardly call the half on the left “relatable”.

      • abysmalpoptart@lemmy.world
        7·
        4 天前

        Thanks for the reply. That lines up more with what I thought I knew generally (not only about my partner). It seems like the artist tried to set themselves up for some sort of a joke, and I don’t think it landed

        • Mothra@mander.xyz
          4·
          3 天前

          I would say it’s not too rare, but it’s not too popular either. I’ve done it only once. I can understand a lot of women wouldn’t be in the mood and or be in pain so it’s no longer enjoyable. I’m a bit of a hit and miss with my symptoms, sometimes I’m feeling great sometimes I don’t want anything or anyone near me.

          Then you need a guy who is keen on it. Some people are put off with the blood.

          Edit: and yes in my previous comment I meant people specifically yearning for it (both the “reliable period sex” + “look forward to it”, that’s somewhat uncommon.)

            • Mothra@mander.xyz
              4·
              3 天前

              I doubt there’s many bleeding at the same intensity the whole week. Discomfort is usually during the peak, and that’s usually one day or two. I’m talking about people who seek this peak. Yeah if you take into account fringe days I probably done it more times.

              But then there’s couples that don’t have a lot of sex. Skipping a week doesn’t bother some people that much. Yeah my face is as puzzled as yours but I’ve known some. Each to their own

        • iamthetot@piefed.caEnglish
          4·
          3 天前

          I don’t have any data, but I do not think period sex is normal. None of my partners have ever been keen on it, from my anecdotal experience.

    • NannerBanner@literature.cafe
      8·
      3 天前

      Because a lot of people don’t understand the difference between ovulating and PMS. There is a bunch of research out there with interesting findings about social interactions around the time of ovulation, including things like tips given to waitresses/strip dancers, ornamentation, and presentation styles. Some of the body of knowledge is just bad research, some is just bad journalism, and some is pretty badass (in an interesting badass way).

      Just looking at the comic’s expectation side, it definitely seems to be referring to some of the ideas around ovulation time, not PMS.

  • Smoogs@lemmy.worldEnglish
    33·
    2 天前

    Left side as an expectation is Most confusing and this is coming from a woman. Were you lead to expect the left side? Was there some bad sexual education circulating? This sounds a bit like ai prompt but it looks like an actual human put in the work on this one. Which is concerning what else they were mislead on

  • DarkCloud@lemmy.world
    172·
    4 天前

    If your body is getting ready to shed cells, it’s a not going to glow with life, or give you big tits… Why would it, it’s about loss. I’m a guy, but I think this comic has menstration confused with ovulation.

    Of course your going to look like a zombie and be cranky… It’s shedding time!

    • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
      7·
      3 天前

      As a woman, I think you’re spot on. I was thinking the same thing. If it said “Ovulation Cycle” and made the two images points between ovulation and periods, a “highs and lows” sort of thing, it would make a lot more sense.

  • tourist@lemmy.world
    101·
    4 天前

    Oh shit homies I think I’ve had PMS for over a decade

    All I gotta do is menstruate

    How do I do that

      • tourist@lemmy.world
        8·
        3 天前

        this is the first and probably last time someone agreed to let me anywhere near their uterus

        question

        Was that funny? I’m really high, I can’t tell if I said something regrettable there. I laughed when I thought of it I think, idk I can’t remember. Sorry if this made anyone upset or cringed out. Jesus, I can hear colours, what was in that preroll

        • Holytimes@sh.itjust.works
          5·
          3 天前

          I laughed my ass off, showed a few friends of various genders, sexs, etc. and it was a solid hit among all of them.

          So I think you did a good job high bro. You deserve some Mac n cheese.

  • Lumisal@lemmy.world
    64·
    3 天前

    Just anecdotal, but both my partners do get the left side, not the right, only with the additional sore boobs (which go away with orgasms for some reason?), a libido spike, and meat/seafood cravings.

    I see most comments here are saying the right side is the common one, but it’s important to remember without actual statistics, we don’t know the percentage of each.

    From my own experience throughout the years, I’ve had partners that are both, sometimes with a mix of things both sides.

    Important to remember humans aren’t black or white when it comes to experiences.

    • Aaoograha_hoa@lemmy.ml
      1·
      19 小时前

      Definitely agree with your last sentence, but I still think the artist is mixing some phases of the menstrual cycle here. English is not my native language, so I hope I will get all my terms correct for the people who would like to learn about this.

      The menstrual cycle has four phases. The cycle starts with the menstruation. Due to a drop on eustrogen and progesterone levels, the uterine lining sheds. It will leave the body along with some blood. The number of days this last and the amount of blood varies per person.

      Right up from the start is also the start of the second phase: the follicular phase. This one matches the left side of the comic and the description of your partners. It last till about half of the cycle. The hypothalamus in the brain stimulates the production of the hormone FSH through the hypofyse. During this time, people can feel great. They can feel prettier, better and smarter in performing and even stronger when they are doing a workout for example. No more worries about money, relationships, the world can be a great place in this phase.

      Around day 14 of the cycle is the ovulation. This happens around 24 hours after the LH (luteinizing hormone) causes a crack or tear in the follicle of the ovary. Some people can feel it happening, for some people it hurts, others can’t feel anything.

      Then it’s time for phase four: the luteal phase. In this phase some people will want to turn their life around. Others feel like they have all the luck in the world. Others will want to cancel their subscriptions, give away their valuables and delete their socials because nothing matters anymore. To prep the uterus for a possible fertilization, the hormone progesterone makes sure an egg could implant in the uterine lining. Progesterone could give people in the luteal phase huge Netflix-, eating-, snarling- or sleeping urges. It can also cause endo belly if you have endometriosis.

      And then you have PMS. It’s not one of the phases, but up to 80% of the people menstruating experiences PMS in a mild or severe variant. It peaks around the ovulation and the luteal phase. It’s not around in the first week of the cycle. Progesterone is the most influential hormone during PMS. There are up to 150 identified symptoms according to the British association for PMS. Most people are familiar with tiredness, feeling lethargic, hunger, aggression, gloom and mood swings. This matches the right side of the comic.

      Well, this was my presentation. Hope some people read this and learn something! My source is the book ‘Je mag je weer aankleden - alles over endometriose’ from Maartje van Hoek. It translates to ‘You may get dressed again - everything about endometriosis’.

    • RBWells@lemmy.world
      2·
      3 天前

      Yeah I always felt best (highest libido, good appetite, slightly manic but in a pleasant way, just lots of energy) in the days right before my period, and the actual period was a big comedown and usually accompanied by a migraine.

      The two nadirs in my cycle were ovulation and menstruation, both are sharp drops in estrogen so that makes sense. Progesterone runs up before the period and that I think is what made me feel good.

    • FelixCress@lemmy.worldOP
      610·
      3 天前

      Important to remember humans aren’t black or white when it comes to experiences.

      While definitely true, this is extremely unpopular take on Lemmy.