More importantly, it gatekeeps gender affirming care to people that are fucked up enough by it. Some of us are significantly hindered by it, but many others can still work and function in life without transitioning.
My dysphoria is bad enough to make life as a man impossible, but I didn’t even know that was the case until I came out. I also don’t think it’s fair to gatekeep care from people who can function without transitioning. Being a good worker bee shouldn’t be the goal; that bar is too low.
They were able to diagnose me with gender dysphoria but they wouldn’t give me treatment officially unless I pretended to be a woman for them, they probably really thought it would be funny for someone who looks just like a man to wear a dress and lipstick with face stubble. Right? So funny? Fuckin chasers. (Yes I’m calling my old doctor and my therapist chasers because they wanted me to dress like a woman without looking like one, they were so pissed when they saw me again post-DIY HRT)
They fucked around (denied care that they literally defined as necessary) and found out 🙄
Fuck transmedicalists, those fuckers wanted me to pretend to be a woman because it’s really funny to see a man desperately pretending to be a woman or they wouldn’t let me have HRT legitimately. Thankfully I was able to buy Estrogen and blockers on the black market so who’s laughing now?
hey! I recognize you! lemmy really is small
For reference:
According to the DSM-5, the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria include a marked incongruence between one’s experienced or expressed gender and their assigned sex, lasting for at least six months, manifested by at least two of the following: a strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and secondary sex characteristics, a strong desire for the primary and secondary sex characteristics of the other gender, a strong desire to be of the other gender, a strong desire to be treated as the other gender, and a strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender. Key points about gender dysphoria diagnosis: Significant incongruence: There must be a noticeable difference between the individual’s experienced gender and their assigned sex. Duration: Symptoms must be present for at least six months. Multiple criteria needed: A diagnosis requires experiencing at least two of the listed criteria. Distress or impairment: The incongruence must cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other areas of functioning.
Ahh fuck. Turns out I have gender dysphoria by this definition.
I’ve spent a bit thinking I don’t have it because I don’t have one of these. And know I’m told I only need 2?
This website also lists some different kinds of dysphoria that you can have: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/ You don’t need to fit the ‘perfect’ stereotypical trans picture to be trans.
Well, what are you waiting for? I wouldn’t hold out hope that things will change!
Gender is bullshit anyway. Associating behaviours and fashion to it is an incorrect way to think. Instead - consider a more deconstructive approach, you are a unique human with unique experiences and relationship to weird societal hangups, it doesn’t need to be more complex than that.
“gender” dysphoria is real but likely a neurological condition related to birth sex and brain development than anything else, certainly nothing to do with gender.
Thank you, needed that :3
“Turbulent” is a great word.
That is THE best Monster flavour and I will slap-fight anyone who disses it!
Sounds like someone who hasn’t had the discontinued pink lemonade.
I have not, indeed :-< Came in late on the Monster crave, been a Coke addict most of my life.
Hol up, the bad for you teeth or the bad for your nose kind?
The teeth kind, I’m not rich enough for a nose kind habit=))
Gender fluid or Blinker fluid though…
Go easy on me, I am an old and out of most loops:(
original zero sugar is better with red bull being better than that energy drinks shouldn’t taste like tropical juice they should taste like an energy drink “energy drink flavour” is delicious and they need to stop trying to hide it with sugar and fruit
It is very nice, but also… Mango Loco.
Mango loco #1, whatever the white sugar free can is #2. Because sometimes I don’t want to speed run diabetes.
I used to regularly buy a case of the white can to bring into work for myself and my colleagues to share. We burned through them.
Have you tried the sugarfree watermelon variety? Had a solid week of drinking that exclusively after first trying it.
My brain works in fantastic ways so I have absolutely no idea. I don’t think I have, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t. I’ll see if my store even has any tomorrow.
Can relate, though my memory seems to be functional when related to taste.
Thoroughly recommend a taste if you manage to find some, it felt simultaneously fresh and nostalgic (used to have a lot of processed fruit juice/soda variety when growing up).
The sugar free ones kinda get old fast for me, I really used to like the green ones (paradise I think) but now I can’t stand them.
Similar things happened with most of the other sugar free flavors.
In the end I decided that I should really just not drink them at all and now they’re a nice treat once in a while when I need a bit of energy and something very sweet.
Honestly, I prefer sugar to date, even though I know it isn’t good for most parts of me. Dunno, those artificial sweeteners are just… they always feel like I’m drinking sweetened aspirin.
That’s why I value anything sugar-free which can hold my attention. I know I should prioritise discipline, but given how things are going nowadays… Well, let’s say a bit of hedonism has become a must for me in maintaining a semblance of psychological stability…
Mango Loco’s good, but it kinda’… loses its novelty after the first half of the second can… Honestly prefer the peach one (forgot the name) over Mango Loco:-?
Peach and nectarine is Monarch?
Yes, that one! Thank you! Really nice, especially love to drink a can before starting my evening relaxation period, ironically. Peach is just such a calming flavour in general, I find.
idk rehab and mule are much better…
I have tried neither, but I will give them a shot if I manage to find some!
Then I will promptly return here and present a backhand because you are objectively WRONG. The Punch is supreme!
(kidding, genuinely thanks for the recs, anything to detach myself from Coke…)
Get the yellow Rehab. Black tea and lemonade. The Peach is pretty good, too.
Thank you, will prioritise that one! Damn, I can’t believe I’m saying this, but maybe I need to start watching some commercials, I’m so out of touch, it’s ridiculous…
THANK YOU!
