Yes, he’d be an asshole for giving her them as a birthday present, regardless of the fact that he got her other presents as well. Just ask her if she wants them after he gets his new ones.
This is actually what the consensus was in that post, but the 4channer was blinded by his own assumption of “men bAD, gIRls gOoD” rhetoric
Jeez. The valid answer to this “problem” took a while to find. Even here.
This green text, like every post on AitA is a work of fiction.
Lmao I’ve actually done just that before, swapping the genders of a previous post, and people do say the complete opposite even though it’s the same situations.
It’s also not even just the genders. Copy/paste the text, wait a few days, and then when you make the post you can also ‘prime’ the situation by having a few immediate posts leaning one way or the other.
Thought this would be a joke about how the titles of AITA posts that sound innocent are typically the ones where OP is the asshole. Like “Can I give someone my old headphones?” Yes, obviously. “Wrapped as a gift,” um, that feels a little insensitive. Probably just give them unwrapped and don’t say it’s part of the gift.
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Thank christ i left reddit for lemmy, this place is so muchnicer and better for my mental health.
I haven’t missed it at all
I miss it every day, even tempted to go back. Niche hobbies, local communities, not so niche hobbies…
Only at the cost of your soul
Old Reddit + adblock + visiting a specific subreddit is hardly soul destroying
I wouldn’t browse my old Reddit feed, I would visit a few subs that don’t have representation here. All hobbies and interests.
The admins are evil, but the small communities were quite alright. The bigger ones (soccer, formula1) are good enough to get the news and meme a bit.
What would Aaron Schwartz do?
That sub is a circlejerk for white knights and femenists Women are never wrong there.
Also a great place for training bots and gauging responses.
Wasn’t there some trend of people wanting to make self-driving cars take into account ethics in their decision making in emergencies, by having some website where people could pretty much solve trolley problems, with just a conductor in the trolley to also take into account some years ago? I’m imagining them scraping that subbredit for answers to questions like “AITA for having run over 2 orphan children in order to save 6 old ladies?”
I’m pretty sure most stories are made up too. They just seem so well written with no grammatical errors or anything.
Yeah they just don’t act like thus stereotypical over there.
Also, “femoid”?
i think femoid might mean a feminist who goes overboard and instead of equality, believes that women should have more rights than men
It’s just what they call women because women aren’t people in their eyes. Classic neckbeard sexist shit.
that makes more sense, thx
This.
Pretty much sums up the thread.
No, it’s a term to dehumanize women they don’t agree with. Don’t be stupid and explain how there are good people on the incel side.
oh ok. thats why i said “i think it might mean etc” and not “it means etc” but thanks for explaining anyway.
also how was that explaining there are good people on the incel side? what does that even mean?
Sorry I was a bit aggressive. I was mocking Trump’s ‘very fine people on both sides’ because it felt like an attempt to say there is a justified way to use that term. But they use it just as a general insult for women.
I’m gonna go ahead and hope that neither those redditors nor those channers ever find Lemmy
The sucky answer is if lemmy gets popular it’ll just be Reddit without the ban lists
I like that many of the people who should be banned here herd into instances that are defederated
True, there will be a lot of self-selection here. So maybe my theory is unfounded
I do think the age changes it. If it’s an 18 year old guy asking about his girlfriend, I also would be like, “hey, that may be a bit much. Old ones are fine.” cause they’re young. The expectations are lower. If it’s an adult woman asking this for her husband, I would say to not give it on their birthday. “Hey, here’s my old pair. Happy birthday” may be a bit flippant, but saying, “Hey, I got a new pair, want my old one?” doesn’t seem like a bad deal.
Also, we didn’t see the post. Maybe the other gifts were also bad. Not saying that AITA isn’t a dumpster fire. But he changed the factors and didn’t give us all the information.
Edit: I just saw the post. He bought her airpods a few years ago and, with how he’s talking, it sounds like he got his around the same time. His wife’s are glitching and just generally failing, but his used ones are fine. He says she takes care of them as with the rest of her things. He has the option to get free, new pair. Yeah, that is kind of dickish. “Here’s my old headphones that could very well be on their way out as well and have been worn for x years. Please enjoy while I get my brand new set that I’ve openly told you I don’t need. Happy birthday.”
If this wasn’t her birthday, fine. But on the day? That kind of fucked imo
I recently read one where the wife was on her laptop and ignoring her husband when he asked her to look at something. So he flicked a lighter in her face, and then she slapped him in his face.
90% of the comments said that she was completely justified in hitting this guy in the face and that she should divorce him.
Anyone saying that you can’t just hit people in the face was down voted to hell.
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This is remarkably accurate actually, AITA is a dumpster fire. And most of the posts are a work of fiction, I suspect.
I used to love that sub. Then it started to be about legal responsibilities instead of morality… From there it really turned into a dumpster fire
The only time I’ve ever been banned on a forum because although I said the woman had the right to do what she did and the guy was clearly in the wrong, she needlessly escalated when empathy would’ve led to a better result for everyone
No explanation, just a temp ban. For advocating empathy and third path conflict resolution
The funniest posts are when commenters get angry OP disagrees with them or makes their own decisions. It’s like they think seeking advice creates a binding contract to follow that advice if it gets agreed with enough.
If you follow advice that you don’t agree with, you are an idiot, even if the advice is actually good. And disagreeing or arguing when you don’t agree is a good way to resolve it if you don’t see why someone would suggest that.
People should only go to that sub for entertainment. Or if you bring a real problem there, use it as a way to get a variety of different perspectives while keeping in mind some commenters might be literal teenagers (or even younger) with no life experience and half of the replies will be either projecting their own shit onto your situation, won’t understand what you wrote, or want to play Sherlock Holmes but their version relies on assumptions they pull out of their ass instead of genius level observational skills, logic, and most of all, the favour of sir Arthur Conan Doyle who can write him as smart or as dumb as his plot about a genius detective needs him to be. Oh, and assholes, the real assholes are in the comments.
And if you scroll down to the bottom of the thread, you get to see some really interesting world views. Or sometimes the rational ones when one of the more popular biases gets triggered.
Tbf, this greentext could also be a complete fabrication.
Genderswap reposts were common and generally got a little traction before being reported and deleted, so it’s plausible that it’s a real story
Not that I rank AITA as a font of true drama
I’m not saying it’s impossible or even that unlikely that this greentext is true but it’s equally true that this person could have fabricated this story to push a narrative about reddit on 4chan for some meager amount of acknowledgement and renown.
But could it also be merry ? Perhaps even jolly? The jury is still out.
Yeah that subreddit in particular went to shit when the news sites started using the posts to generate content.
AITA and RelationshipAdvice.
All the advice subs had a lot of fiction
Sometimes you got people picking up and saying “there needs to be something else to this story”.
Fake, but even if it was true, the problem would have probably been the age change and not the gender change. Teenage relationships and adult relationships have different rules…
Also, teenagers are poorer, so any gift would carry more weight.
Yeah, I have to assume 18 year old women are on average way, way, way poorer than 40 year old men. That’s true regardless of the gender, 40 tends to be a pretty high spot in personal capital.
My eyes rolled so hard on this one lol. An 18 year old woman has 40 year old losers waiting in line to buy them shit. Free drinks in the bar, free vacation, free meals, free shopping trips. 10k a month for “feet pics” on only fans 🤮.
Are… Are you OK?
Are… Are. You ever not on the internet, and experiencing reality?
Experiencing your “reality” that you or some insecure manosphere shitheel just made up to justify hating women, which you wouldn’t know is false because you’ve never in your miserable life actually talked to a woman who was comfortable sharing those intimate details of her personal life with you? No, no I’m not.
Yawn don’t project some bullshit beliefs on me.
Those are really weird incel beliefs.
But, for levity, please explain what is wrong with this:
10k a month for “feet pics” on only fans
It’s weird that you refuse to actively reject reality. Good npc energy yum. Did you notice that only fans made more than the salary of the combined NBA?
What is wrong with making money on OnlyFans? What is wrong with making money in the NBA? I am now more confused.
I didn’t say anything was wrong with it. People just seem to think there isn’t any money in being an 18 year old woman they are all broke lol.
They are just mad because nobody wants to give them money to look at their feet.
Tell me about those rules. I want to learn!
It depends entirely on the maturity of the parties involved, it’s not really an “older/younger” thing.
But generally, the less mature you are, the more a relationship is selfish, i.e. you want to be in a relationship for your personal advantage, i.e. “i get sex when I have a girlfriend”. The more mature you get, the more relationships go into the direction of “I want to make the other person happy”. You still get your sex or whatever other advantage of course, but it’s much more fulfilling if you can actually give the other person what they need, and temporarily losing your personal benefit of the relationship doesn’t cause immediate breakups.
No. Those rules have to be learnt the hard way.
They don’t really. They are often learned the hard way, because no one attempts to explain them or just acts like they know but doesn’t really.
And also gay.
Lemmy dumping on Reddit via a 4chan greentext
I’m so proud of this community.