Yes, he’d be an asshole for giving her them as a birthday present, regardless of the fact that he got her other presents as well. Just ask her if she wants them after he gets his new ones.
This is actually what the consensus was in that post, but the 4channer was blinded by his own assumption of “men bAD, gIRls gOoD” rhetoric
Jeez. The valid answer to this “problem” took a while to find. Even here.
This green text, like every post on AitA is a work of fiction.
This is actually a real post but I cannot find the genderswapped version. Presumably because the duplicate nature was identified and OOP was banned.
Maybe because it sa fake story? Lol
I does have a certain “and then the whole bus clapped” energy to it.
Good thing they left reddit and went to 4chan where they could get away from ultra thirsty guys acting all kinds of crazy over women.
It may or may not be. I can’t speak to that post, but I’ve seen others pull the same bit with other posts (wait a week or two and repost with a gender swap, then point to the radical difference in response) and usually the gender swapped version gets deleted and the poster banned when it comes out.
Yeah always had a good chuckle at the people that would try to point out the echo chamber hypocrisy in a subreddit and be upvoted but yelled at so hard then banned.
Same story every time.
Lmao I’ve actually done just that before, swapping the genders of a previous post, and people do say the complete opposite even though it’s the same situations.
It’s also not even just the genders. Copy/paste the text, wait a few days, and then when you make the post you can also ‘prime’ the situation by having a few immediate posts leaning one way or the other.
Thought this would be a joke about how the titles of AITA posts that sound innocent are typically the ones where OP is the asshole. Like “Can I give someone my old headphones?” Yes, obviously. “Wrapped as a gift,” um, that feels a little insensitive. Probably just give them unwrapped and don’t say it’s part of the gift.
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Thank christ i left reddit for lemmy, this place is so muchnicer and better for my mental health.
I haven’t missed it at all
I miss it every day, even tempted to go back. Niche hobbies, local communities, not so niche hobbies…
Only at the cost of your soul
Old Reddit + adblock + visiting a specific subreddit is hardly soul destroying
I wouldn’t browse my old Reddit feed, I would visit a few subs that don’t have representation here. All hobbies and interests.
The admins are evil, but the small communities were quite alright. The bigger ones (soccer, formula1) are good enough to get the news and meme a bit.
What would Aaron Schwartz do?
That sub is a circlejerk for white knights and femenists Women are never wrong there.
Also a great place for training bots and gauging responses.
Wasn’t there some trend of people wanting to make self-driving cars take into account ethics in their decision making in emergencies, by having some website where people could pretty much solve trolley problems, with just a conductor in the trolley to also take into account some years ago? I’m imagining them scraping that subbredit for answers to questions like “AITA for having run over 2 orphan children in order to save 6 old ladies?”
I’m pretty sure most stories are made up too. They just seem so well written with no grammatical errors or anything.
Yeah they just don’t act like thus stereotypical over there.
Also, “femoid”?
i think femoid might mean a feminist who goes overboard and instead of equality, believes that women should have more rights than men
It’s just what they call women because women aren’t people in their eyes. Classic neckbeard sexist shit.
that makes more sense, thx
This.
Pretty much sums up the thread.
No, it’s a term to dehumanize women they don’t agree with. Don’t be stupid and explain how there are good people on the incel side.
oh ok. thats why i said “i think it might mean etc” and not “it means etc” but thanks for explaining anyway.
also how was that explaining there are good people on the incel side? what does that even mean?
Sorry I was a bit aggressive. I was mocking Trump’s ‘very fine people on both sides’ because it felt like an attempt to say there is a justified way to use that term. But they use it just as a general insult for women.
I’m gonna go ahead and hope that neither those redditors nor those channers ever find Lemmy
The sucky answer is if lemmy gets popular it’ll just be Reddit without the ban lists
I like that many of the people who should be banned here herd into instances that are defederated
True, there will be a lot of self-selection here. So maybe my theory is unfounded
I do think the age changes it. If it’s an 18 year old guy asking about his girlfriend, I also would be like, “hey, that may be a bit much. Old ones are fine.” cause they’re young. The expectations are lower. If it’s an adult woman asking this for her husband, I would say to not give it on their birthday. “Hey, here’s my old pair. Happy birthday” may be a bit flippant, but saying, “Hey, I got a new pair, want my old one?” doesn’t seem like a bad deal.
Also, we didn’t see the post. Maybe the other gifts were also bad. Not saying that AITA isn’t a dumpster fire. But he changed the factors and didn’t give us all the information.
Edit: I just saw the post. He bought her airpods a few years ago and, with how he’s talking, it sounds like he got his around the same time. His wife’s are glitching and just generally failing, but his used ones are fine. He says she takes care of them as with the rest of her things. He has the option to get free, new pair. Yeah, that is kind of dickish. “Here’s my old headphones that could very well be on their way out as well and have been worn for x years. Please enjoy while I get my brand new set that I’ve openly told you I don’t need. Happy birthday.”
If this wasn’t her birthday, fine. But on the day? That kind of fucked imo
I recently read one where the wife was on her laptop and ignoring her husband when he asked her to look at something. So he flicked a lighter in her face, and then she slapped him in his face.
90% of the comments said that she was completely justified in hitting this guy in the face and that she should divorce him.
Anyone saying that you can’t just hit people in the face was down voted to hell.
Used earbuds are kinda gross, it’s his wife but still…
Are you, like, buying a new spoon every time you want to eat? Are you unfamiliar with the concept of cleaning?
In their defense, properly cleaning headphones is kinda hard, especially wireless earbuds.
Source : Used to work at an electronics repair shop that cleaned stuff, and even clean ‘looking’ (aka externally clean) headphones can have some disgusting junk on the inside.
Username relevant?
… domain relevant?
I was going on about the unsafe for work uncleanliness he was describing…
Not the best joke but I ran with it.
But the outside part covers the inside and is the only part that goes inside. The inside is still inside while being inside your ear protecting the inside of your ear from the inside of the earbud.
If you look at pretty much all earphones and earbuds, you’ll see they have a screen mesh where the sound comes out. You can remove this mesh (depending on the device, it might take some effort), and very often you’ll find an accumulation of earwax. I had a pair of Galaxy Buds+ that I needed to clean when I noticed the sound was unusually low.
Exactly! ‘My headphones are so quiet now, could the speaker be dying?’ is something we got all the time. Most of the time when people clean their headphones, all the do is take a wipe or a brush (if you’re lucky alcohol) and clean the outside of the mesh. Half the time all they’re doing is pushing earwax through the mesh so you get a nice little wax puck when you open them up.
It’s gross, but it did feel good to be able to tell people they didn’t need new headphones, we just cleaned them for $15.
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context is everything…always.
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