• MissJinx@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    look you guys gotta understand that women’s orgasm is a bit different. We can have amazing sex and not orgasm and it’s ok. A woman can orgasm without even touching herself, that’s how “in the head” we are. Its good either way. If you really want to make her cum try oral.

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        4 days ago

        Because men sometimes take it personally when they “can’t make you cum.” Occasionally they get mad and blame you. It’s safer to just hide it and figure it out later if necessary.

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          That sounds like both people are wrong. If one person defaults to anger and the other defaults to lying that sounds like a really unhealthy relationship.

          • Billegh@lemmy.world
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            You’re not wrong, but actual relationship dynamics aren’t always so clear cut. I was merely commenting as to why and unwilling to make a judgement about the situation. You don’t always know what someone else is going through.

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      I’ve had a penis since birth and I can still have amazing sex without orgasming. For me it’s more a matter of habit. When I started having sex, I wanted to orgasm every time. As I got more experienced, I started enjoying all the other stuff in sex more, and I regularly have sex with my partner without orgasming - most of my orgasms now come from masturbation.

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    5 days ago

    Pro tip for guys (by a guy): Always make sure she has at least one orgasm before you blow your load. Commit to oral and you’ll go a long way.

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      Sure, sounds good in the short term. Probably better in the long term to be honest and figure out something that lets everyone to have an orgasm though.

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        And lets people give orgasms. Someone who fakes an orgasm robs their partner of the opportunity to give orgasms.

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            4 days ago

            Exactly! He needs to find himself a more compatible partner, but she’s lying and preventing him from learning this.

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        This assumes that the person faking it expects continued interaction and/or safety. Women often fake it with flings when they simply want things to finish and don’t want to have an awkward conversation with the person they never intend to see again. They also fake it to avoid confrontation due to perceived emasculation.

        Now, if you feel safe in your non-transient relationship, this is literally the best advice in the world.