STANFORD, CA—In a cutting-edge breakthrough for their field, psychologists at Stanford University confirmed Thursday they had trained a full-grown man to ask for help when he needed it. “After years of rigorous experimentation, we believe the test subject, whom we have named Buster, is finally capable of requesting…
  • frickineh@lemmy.worldEnglish
    40·
    1 year ago

    Now train my mom. Or at least get her to stop being pissy because I didn’t help her with a task I didn’t know she was doing in the first place.

    Jk that’s literally impossible.

      • frickineh@lemmy.worldEnglish
        11·
        1 year ago

        It’s the most infuriating quality of mothers everywhere, I guess. Like holy shit, I’ll help you, but you can’t just expect me to have a spidey sense for when you’ve decided to do some plumbing MY GOD MOTHER.

        Ahem.

  • that guy@lemmy.worldEnglish
    362·
    1 year ago

    I know this is satire but if you want better men you have to teach boys a better rite of passage than becoming an alcoholic

  • tygerprints@kbin.social
    81·
    1 year ago

    I’ll believe that when I see it. If men were able to ask for help, we wouldn’t have such high suicide rates.

      • Nepenthe@kbin.social
        61·
        1 year ago

        I know there is one man out there who has friends he talks to and also perhaps a therapist. Same as women. That guy? That semi-theoretical guy is hot. That guy knows how to communicate like you wouldn’t believe.

        • Olhonestjim@lemmy.worldEnglish
          4·
          1 year ago

          I have friends I can talk to, a therapist, and medication.

          I still have a lot of difficulty communicating what’s rattling around my head, and I’m still not doing great.

        • tygerprints@kbin.social
          2·
          1 year ago

          Communication is the key to almost everything. Being able to have a social network you can depend on, that’s a real treasure. And having a counselor to help you through mental problems is an absolute goldmine. I hope men can open their eyes to that reality without fear.

      • tygerprints@kbin.social
        1·
        1 year ago

        That’s true, and there are more of them available today, including the national suicide hotline 988, an easy number to remember. What men need is to see that mental health is as or even more important than physical health, and that going to a “mental gym” is a cool manly thing to do (and it is). By mental gym I mean getting counseling or whatever help you need to become a better and more integrated person.

        • Kbin_space_program@kbin.social
          1·
          1 year ago

          Not just that, but that goes for everyone.

          Men need men only spaces. Women have women’s shelters in every city in every western country.
          For men, you’re lucky if your country has a shelter. You’re lucky if the law even recognizes you being abused as a crime.

          • tygerprints@kbin.social
            1·
            1 year ago

            Actually that’s a good point, there SHOULD be men’s only spaces. And I don’t mean places where you sit around talking about antlers and scratching yourself (I do enough of that at home) but places where men can talk openly about things going on with them and their own struggles. And maybe help each other like they do in 12-step programs.

            And it’s not because being a man is somehow toxic, it’s because many of the beliefs we have as men can make our lives toxic. It’s about detoxifying ourselves and learning that life can be much richer and more enjoyable by being less worried about appearances and such.