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    1 year ago

    IMO either party doing this is fine as long as it’s discussed and within the comfort bounds of the people in the relationship.

    I think the problem is an expectation when there has been no discussion about whether or not it’s within someone’s limits.

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        I can only speak for myself but I wouldn’t really mind it the other way around as long as there’s no implied use of force or manipulation.

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        I believe “consenting” is key here.

        The reason why it’s taboo if the genders were reversed is because there is a long and well documented history of non-consent when genders are reversed.

        Was there non-consent where gals are forcing guys? Very likely. However what evidence I’ve seen suggests this is dwarfed by guys forcing gals.

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        1 year ago

        im gonna post a reversed version of this im really curious what’ll happen

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        9 months ago

        part of the joke is the reversal of the stereotype.
        breaking stereotypes = good
        enforcing stereotypes = bad

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        Yes, I suppose if you ignore every single bit of the last few hundred years worth of context, it would be hard to understand why people might be ok with this, but not necessarily the reverse.

        Fortunately that context is available to you, so what I have trouble understanding is why you’re not accounting for that. Maybe you could elaborate, or perhaps do some perspective taking on why historically oppressed groups have certain sensitivities that privileged groups do not have. You might even come to realize that treating everyone exactly the same after not doing so for a very long time doesn’t come across as terribly fair. Because, you know, it isn’t.

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            So now the question is whether it is okay for us to show women doing something to men in cases where we are not comfortable with men doing that same action to women.

            I think what you actually are aiming at is the question: Why is this meme upvoted? And why do you think the meme with reversed genders wouldn’t be?

            I bet you want to tell us.

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            Would you say the same if we were talking about religions or races instead of genders?