• HardlightCereal@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Yes, that’s better. When I was abused as a child I survived through self advocacy. Now self advocacy is my trauma response. I’ve learned to keep my calm and construct reasonable arguments why I shouldn’t be attacked, even while I’m panicking on the inside. For example, my reasonable argument why OP shouldn’t deliberately post memes in order to trigger me is that that’s mean, and my reasonable argument why they shouldn’t accuse me of faking trauma is that that’s literally what they said is abusive.

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      Maybe OP posts memes because they think that they’re funny/interesting and you aren’t actually a consideration? Also, you don’t need to append “reasonable” before “argument”, I’m sure they’re reasonable to you but that doesn’t mean that they are to everyone else. Few people use arguments that they themselves believe are unreasonable.

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          That doesn’t look like they’re being serious. Sort of if a conservative tells you that you offend them when you’re considerate to minorities and you tell them that you’ll be even more considerate just for that. You’re not literally being considerate to spite conservatives but your response more means that you won’t stop doing what you’re doing because of them.

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            1 year ago

            I don’t think jokes about triggering PTSD on purpose are funny. I think those are the kinds of jokes reactionaries make when they find the existence of disabled people offensive.

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              Didn’t they themselves state that they have PTSD? How would they be a reactionary to the existence of people with PTSD?

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                It’s called lateral violence, and it’s unfortunately very common. They don’t believe I have PTSD because they don’t want to believe I have PTSD. If I were genuinely triggered by something they did on purpose, they’d be a total asshole. They don’t want to think of themself as a total asshole, so they invented a justification to accuse me of faking trauma. It’s such a common thing for abusive people to do that it’s what the meme at the top of this thread is about.