• bruhduh@lemmy.world
    372·
    9 months ago

    The problem is… How do you know when she interested and when not interested if she just chatting normally, i mean, I’ve been called dense many times when she didn’t do even slightest signs of affection, just friendly chatting, that’s it

    • SharkEatingBreakfast
      1914·
      9 months ago

      ASK.

      edit: If you can’t communicate clearly, you’re not ready to be in a relationship.

      • bruhduh@lemmy.world
        163·
        9 months ago

        Every one of those who tried to talk to me? It would be kinda cringe, there should be at least SOME signs like touching hair or something, but they did NONE of them, well… Looks like i attract some tsunderes or something, only 2 SHOWED little signs, others just call me dense if i don’t initiate myself

        • Instigate@aussie.zone
          26·
          9 months ago

          Ehh, that’s a self-selecting feature there mate. You don’t want to be with someone who communicates through inscrutable clues and then becomes upset if you don’t pick up on them or read them wrong. That’s a recipe for an emotional bad time.

            • Instigate@aussie.zone
              5·
              9 months ago

              Some people play those mindgames not because they believe in them, but because they believe that’s how you’re supposed to act when dating. This is particularly common for younger people with less dating experience, and is often introduced/reinforced by media narratives. I think you’ll find that being direct while also very courteous and polite will have the best results as you may catch someone who is actually thankful not to have to go through the rigamarole of silly dating games.

              Something along the lines of:

              “Hey, so I think you’re really interesting and I’d love to grab a coffee/drink/meal with you sometime if you’re interested”.

              If you face any resistance whatsoever, back down politely. Something like:

              “No problems at all! Thanks for being direct with me, I really appreciate it. Let me know if you change your mind.”

              You’ll put off people who want to be chased but trust me - they never tire of the chase and you definitely will before they do. I’ve been with someone before who needed to be chased and it’s exhausting. This method means you’re whittling down potential dates which may seem difficult at the time but you’ll thank yourself for it later.

              Fingers crossed you meet someone you vibe with mate!

        • SharkEatingBreakfast
          51·
          9 months ago

          Every one of those who tried to talk to me?

          The ones you are interested in a more romantic relationship with, yes.

      • Kusimulkku@lemm.ee
        3·
        9 months ago

        If you can’t communicate clearly, you’re not ready to be in a relationship.

        Not sure if you mean the person you’re replying to or the women in question

            • TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee
              3·
              9 months ago

              African American Vernacular English

              I’m not really educated enough on the subject to say too much about it without sounding ignorant, but that’ll get your google search started

            • Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world
              21·
              9 months ago

              An acronym is a word that when it’s abbreviated you say aloud like it’s a proper word. Take for instance Self Contained Underwater Breathing Aparatus… When you say it aloud it creates a word. Scuba.

              Initnialisms are abbreviations that when you talk about them don’t get turned into words but you spell them out by letter. Like FBI. You don’t say something like “Ffffbee” cus it’s kind of awkward. You refer to it by it’s initials hence initialism.

              Sometimes you get a weird distinction where something could be easily both but culture makes it one or the other like the World Health Oganization could have easily been an acronym but for clarity sake they chose to propagate it as the initialism. W. H. O.

              • jawa21@lemmy.sdf.org
                3·
                9 months ago

                I was asking about the initialism in the previous comment, not what the word itself means. I assumed that no one is going to attempt to pronounce that.