I can’t tell you how much of a breath of fresh air it is after ditching Reddit for Lemmy. In my several days of being here, I have only seen ONE asshole! Versus seeing multiple assholes on Reddit! Crazy right?
But seriously, I used Reddit since 2014. I tried using it for therapeutic conversations sometimes. Like going on r/Offmychest or r/Confessions. As I’ve dealt with a lot of trauma in my own life, done some bad things I’m not proud of and needed to get them out…over on Reddit, I was constantly judged. Even if I showed fucking remorse over my actions and made it clear I’m not proud of what I did, 10 years ago for example. And I’d get called a dipshit and an asshole and I need therapy. (Not that I can afford it) It was never genuine, heart to heart conversation. Now after being here on Lemmy and seeing how many kind and amazing people there are, it’s actually starting to encourage me to try again. Maybe I can actually have one on one honest conversations without being called a horrible person despite me showing remorse. That being said, if anyone could point me in the right direction to an offmychest or Confessions community, or instance, I’d appreciate it.
I guess bottom line, you guys are great. The majority at least. It’s such a breath of fresh air from the toxicity and ridicule of Reddit and I greatly appreciate it. Thanks guys, and keep…Lemmying?
(That’s totally a word!)
You can create multiple accounts, but shouldn’t have to as long as the two instances aren’t bad actors. I think this stance is short sighted and lazy from beehaw.org admins. I expect those communities there to migrate to another instance as the dominant community for the topic.
That’s their prerogative, but it just means I won’t be interacting with communities on beehaw. What’s to say they won’t defederate from the instance I choose for my 2nd or 3rd account in the future?
As you said, it’s their prerogative and I’d add that being able to do so is one of the beauties of the open source decentralized network but I don’t think fragmentation will help the federation as a whole.
Just to play devil’s advocate, and full disclosure my only Lemmy account is on Beehaw, they’re not doing this out of a sense of judgment, they’re very explicitly trying to create safer, friendlier online community, and since lemmy.world has gotten so big with no signup gate, the moderation policy there doesn’t align with theirs and is beginning to impact Beehaw. They claim this is very hopefully a temporary measure at least until there are more robust moderation tools.
That being said, I’ll spend a little more time here on kbin to check out the broader community :-).
Yeah, that’s good, but in practice it just cuts off several top 10 federated communities on Lemmy from being able to be interacted with until that’s addressed. I understand it’s temporary and maybe necessary, but if I want to talk tech right now, there’s no where I can go without creating a new user elsewhere and that kind of sucks as a new user on a new platform that’s trying to put it’s best foot forward.
These are all top 10 communities that now are participation gated to a good chunk of Lemmy’s users. !Gaming@beehaw.org !Technololgy@beehaw.org !news@beehaw.org !linux@beehaw.org !chat@beehaw.org
We should create competing communities and let beehaw stew in their own juices, just like they want.
That’s fine but the logical response to that is to appoint more moderators to deal with the influx of new users. Anyone who isn’t a self-absorbed control freak would at least think about doing that. Beehaw admins seem to think they are so special that only they can do a good job moderating their community.
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