Thought I’d get the ball rolling as this is empty!

I’m neamhsplach, I’m undiagnosed but I’m being screened for possible ADHD and/or dyspraxia because of some issues I’ve had with work.

I love Taskmaster and never miss an episode of The Blindboy Podcast. Looking forward to chatting to you all!

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    Hello everyone! I’m Witch and I am an ADHDer that probably has autism but hasn’t really gotten around to getting diagnosed yet on account of being an adult that feels like it’ll be more hassle than its worth.

    I’m currently on Vynase.

    My special interest is art and I am currently trying to “fix” my life. High school drop out, no job, hoping for a change.

    It’s nice to meet you all!

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    Hello, I have aspergers/adhd (although I know aspergers isn’t officially recognized anymore, I feel that accurately communicates my situation)

    My dream in life is to one day own a zoo with the purpose of teaching people not to fear snakes/reptiles in general, with the hope that people realize they’re inquisitive, thoughtful animals, not monsters.

    I’m also a free software enthusiast, and an anarchist.

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    Hi! I’m in my early 30s. I have ASD and ADHD, but I wasn’t officially diagnosed until I was 19. Looking forward to chatting with more people who are in the same boat.

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    Hi I’m in my mid 20’s, diagnosed with ADHD 2 months(?) ago, and in the process of getting diagnosed with ASD.

    Nice to see this place growing so quickly. I want to watch reddit burn first, but I love that this exists now.

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    Early 40s, diagnosed with ADD at age 6. That was before DSM rolled ADD and a bunch of other outdated concepts into ADHD in the mid-nineties.

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    Hi! I’m 40m with:

    • Major depressive disorder, recurrent, in partial remission
    • Post-traumatic stress disorder, chronic
    • Autistic disorder

    The first one I’ve known about and fought, to varying degrees of success, throughout most of adulthood. Sometimes I’m fine; content, motivated, unmedicated, truckin’ along living my best life, and other times I need to ask for help. Luckily my depressive disorder manifests as a lack of executive function and disinterest in everything, so I haven’t had any struggles with self harm or ideation.

    The last few years of therapy - I thought primarily only for depression - have made me realize just how much PTSD I had from growing up. I had an awful home life as a child with two parents in way over their head, way too young, and without any good healthy coping strategies of their own. I learned to survive by:

    • be afraid of everything all the time
    • never ask for help
    • never indicate blame
    • never suggest any failings in anyone other than self
    • make everyone laugh as much as possible; if they think you’re funny, they are less likely to hurt you when they’re angry
    • be aware of every movement and emotion people are feeling at all times, no matter what
    • be afraid. don’t forget that part.
    • oh, and it’s vitally important you never, ever let people know you’re afraid, because that makes them feel bad and they’ll react by justifying your fear

    So when I found out I was a high functioning autistic - it finally made everything I was feeling and trying to do throughout my entire life snap into place. I must have known that at some level I had to work 10x harder than someone without my challenges to read people. It was critical that I read people correctly at all times, and any failure could end in disaster. I was exhausted all the time around other people, because I had to be at the absolute top of my game, all of the time, or else. I use italics there because the reality is that was only true for a very small subset of two people, but what you know cerebrally and what you know in your lizard brain are two very different things.

    I’ll be untangling this mess for the foreseeable future, but I’m finally starting to extend myself grace and dabbling in some exposure therapy; simple things like “I’m sorry, this isn’t what I ordered” are now possible, albeit hard.

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      Good on you for taking care of yourself :) I’m on my own ASD - PTSD journey too and it has been incredibly hard at times but I’m still here fighting it out :) Every small bit of progress counts.

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    Hi, I’m Os and I’m new here! I’m here because I have major depression, general anxiety, and inattentive adhd. I also love Taskmaster! I really like Minecraft and I make lots of texture packs and things for it over on planetminecraft.

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      Hi Os! Love meeting other Taskmaster fans! I have an unhealthy obsession with it. Greg in teacher mode is my absolute favourite. I think my favourite season was the the fifteenth. Fern Brady is a neurodivergent queen 🤩

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    Hello. I’m late 30s and undiagnosed, since my country has a 30 month waiting list for adult diagnoses right now. Maybe I have ASD, or maybe i’m just regular weird. Who knows. What is normal anyways?

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      Maybe I have ASD, or maybe i’m just regular weird

      I feel this on a deep level hahaha. I’m also undiagnosed, although I think I’m closer to inattentive ADHD from what I’ve read. I have a LOT of time on my hands while I wait to see a specialist to wonder if I am just super weird and there’s nothing more to it 😆

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    Hi everyone this is my first comment here despite being here for a few days and trying to use it more, slowly weaning myself off Reddit (no idea if I’m gonna be able to do it long term). I was diagnosed with Asperger’s as a teenager, but I was in denial for a very long time because I didn’t like the psychologist diagnosing me. I don’t like the term anymore because the doctor was a Nazi. Rather just saw ASD level 1. Recently I’ve been realising I have ADHD and I think that causes me more problems in my life than ASD. I can’t afford to get diagnosed or medicated currently however :/

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    Hi, I’m in my early 20s and am diagnosed with social + generalized anxiety and depression. Tbh I don’t usually talk too openly about this stuff, but it’s nice to meet you all!

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    Hey hey. I’m Tree and I’m an addict…wait wrong group.

    I am one of the many with a severe deficit of attention. I look forward to relating way too hard to many of the things that will be brought up here.

    I hope this becomes a very supportive and therapeutic place to complain or laugh at our various maladies. I’m looking forward to it.

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      I love how many ADHD folks are in here, because the alternative is doing the work we’re paid for, and the thought of that is too horrendous to contemplate.

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    I’m 31M with Dyspraxia/ASD. Diagnosed since I was very young, grew up with quite severe developmental delays and hypersensitivity etc. Nowadays I mostly get along fine.

    I’ll certainly follow this community but I must admit, perhaps controversially, that I’m not fond of the term “neurodiverse”. I’m not just diverse, I have a disability. And if it were possible to cure it, I would.

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      I don’t know if it’s controversial but I struggle with the disability label too, as I masked a lot growing up. I get swayed from one side to the other as time passes.

      For me there are parts of me that I don’t want to be neurotypical like how NT small talk, social hierarchy, judgment, group politics etc works. I also like how I view and understand things.

      There are parts like executive function deficits, hypersensitivity, difficulty understanding emotions and so on that I would like to get better at. So it’s a mixed bag.

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    Diagnosed ADHD (combined type), getting close to finding the right medication.

    Undiagnosed autism, I’ve suspected for many years and am trying to get a bit more involved in the community to better understand myself.

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    I’m a retired science teacher and union president. I’ve had a history of depression. I like science fiction.

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        Hi SanityFM,

        I’ve been here 5 days or so, but been busy… Been away for a few days travelling, currently in Coimbra, Portugal. Anyway, I just finished reading Dune for the nth time, because I want it fresh in my mind when the second half of the movie comes out. I’ve also been writing up stuff to help explain the fediverse and the reddit stuff.

        https://babylon4.com/fediverse and https://babylon4.com/rexxit

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        Thanks mananevergone,

        Anything in particular you want to chat about? Right now I’m traveling to Coimbra Portugal. It’s very pretty, but also with very steep hills, which my aging feet and knees don’t like.

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        Hi neamhsplach,

        I’ve been here 5 days or so, but been busy… Been away for a few days travelling, currently in Coimbra, Portugal. Anyway, I haven’t been doing much union stuff since I retired, but have been boosting union content on Mastodon. I’ve also been writing up stuff to help explain the fediverse and the reddit stuff.

        https://babylon4.com/fediverse and https://babylon4.com/rexxit

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          Since Mastodon isn’t about grabbing your eyeballs and not letting go, when you get to the end of your feed, try closing the browser and doing something else. Take a walk, read a book, talk to your sweetie. It’s much better for your mental health.

          I love this part!

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    Thanks for making this post! I (30NB) was diagnosed with cPSTD a little over a year ago and just this week my therapist is referring me for ASD screening. I find Discord utterly overwhelming and I like the reddit/lemmy kind of forum stuff over twitter/mastodon.

    I’m looking forward to lemmy making progress! I’m a SWE and I wish I could contribute but I’m focusing on EMDR and general trauma processing right now 😕

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      Hi! Good luck with your ASD screening, I hope you get some progress with it.

      When you say you prefer Lemmy over Discord… is it Discord in particular you have issues with? Or chat programmes in general? I generally have no problems with chat systems, but I find Discord overwhelming too.

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        Hi, thanks! I’ve seen occasional Slack channels that are full of animated reactions and gifs, but Discord is so, so much worse.

        I love forums because it’s hard to miss something. It’s easy to ignore subforums or mark them as read, and there’s no realtime pressure. With Discord, I feel more likely to miss than catch anything. I’ve had notification badges that after 30 minutes I still couldn’t figure out how to make go away. There’s a mode to disable animations, but you can’t see them again without disabling the mode (why not a button for each gif??). I tried joining a queer Discord but everyone’s pronouns are a different font in a different color in a different size, all the time, with no way for me to simply the UI on my end. It really seems to me like it’s only popular because of mobile apps.