I’ve heard it explained that “hey” used to be more of an urgent way to get someone’s attention, rather than a casual “hello” like it is now, so it sounded rude to some older folks.

  • Ramόn Sánchez @lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    3
    arrow-down
    14
    ·
    1 year ago

    I don’t think you understand what that word means. If you’re being waited on and paying good money for it, you would prefer to hear your server say “you’re welcome” rather “no problem”.

    If you’re socially inept, it’s not surprising if polite traditions are lost on you.

    • schmidtster@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      8
      arrow-down
      3
      ·
      1 year ago

      I don’t give two flying fucks what the waiter says, bring me my food and don’t be an ass with your demeanor.

          • Ramόn Sánchez @lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            3
            arrow-down
            7
            ·
            1 year ago

            Part of the conversation talking about how older people get upset at how a server answers them? Yes.

            If you say you don’t care, then there’s no reason for you to comment about that aspect of the conversation.

            I’m trying to explain to the socially inept why using certain terminology in a hospitality setting can be frowned upon. Unsurprisingly, they can’t grasp this very simple concept.

            • schmidtster@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              5
              arrow-down
              1
              ·
              edit-2
              1 year ago

              Maybe the older people just shouldn’t get upset? Why do we need to pander to them? Cant they just allow us to respond to thank you the way we want to?

              Goes both ways. And yes I have reason, this is a child Conversation of one of my comments.

              Society should stop pandering to them, eventually there would be no places they could go without accepting they’ve lost. Plenty of places do fine already being hospital under other means.

              • Ramόn Sánchez @lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                English
                arrow-up
                2
                arrow-down
                3
                ·
                1 year ago

                They are going to get upset because that is how they were raised and there’s nothing wrong with that. You can choose to say no problem and they can choose to get upset by it, that’s how life works.

                Also, in the hospitality industry, pandering is part of the job.

                • schmidtster@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  English
                  arrow-up
                  3
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  There’s everything wrong with being entitled lmfao.

                  So why is it acceptable for them to be upset, but it’s not acceptable for them to say no problem? That’s not how life works.

                  Pandering is only part of the job because people were incorrectly taught that. Pandering also comes in many forms. Why do you think the Karen cafe does so well?

                  Eventually they will learn they have to accept society won’t pander specially to them, the rest of the population our numbers them and eventually hospitablility will switch to the more profitable market. Which will be pissing boomers off even more.

                  • Ramόn Sánchez @lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    English
                    arrow-up
                    1
                    arrow-down
                    3
                    ·
                    1 year ago

                    The server can say “no problem “ and the older people can get upset about it, plain and simple. I already explained why using that term in a hospitality setting can be frowned upon. Everything else is just going around in circles trying to rationalize one side or the other of the argument. Young people see no difference, fine, older people do.

                    I swear, for a generation that preaches tolerance, they are certainly not very tolerant of older people and their traditions.

                    Someone else replied to me, saying they should all just die since they can’t cope with the new world, or something like that. That doesn’t sound very tolerant to me.