What is valid is mind your business. If you meet someone in a wheelchair, do you start recommending surgical treatments or physical therapy exercises? ADHD is a medical condition, and there is no cure-all treatment or technique that will make the problem go away. You deal with someone who has ADHD with understanding and empathy. If their condition affects you, especially in a negative way (they frequently forget plans, or they are late and you find yourself waiting) then you should honestly communicate those issues. But it’s not your problem to fix. Some problems can’t be fixed. You’re entitled to your happiness, but unless you’re their doctor, you don’t need to help them come up with a solution.
What was your single cure-all suggestion to your colleague that fixed him?
You help by talking with them to uncover the root of the problem and working with them to avoid it in the future. There isn’t going to be a simple fix that guarantees it won’t happen again. “Just install an app” isn’t treatment.
It’s like you’re not reading what i’m saying on purpose.
So perpetual liability regardless of what we do? Is that the advice you give? Saying “talk to them” is as vague a response as the advice listed from the first comment i responded to.
What is valid is mind your business. If you meet someone in a wheelchair, do you start recommending surgical treatments or physical therapy exercises? ADHD is a medical condition, and there is no cure-all treatment or technique that will make the problem go away. You deal with someone who has ADHD with understanding and empathy. If their condition affects you, especially in a negative way (they frequently forget plans, or they are late and you find yourself waiting) then you should honestly communicate those issues. But it’s not your problem to fix. Some problems can’t be fixed. You’re entitled to your happiness, but unless you’re their doctor, you don’t need to help them come up with a solution.
What a non-answer. I have a colleague with adhd that lost a customer because he couldn’t finish a job in time. Quite literally my business.
How do i help so it doesn’t happen again? From all i hear its a treatable issue.
What was your single cure-all suggestion to your colleague that fixed him?
You help by talking with them to uncover the root of the problem and working with them to avoid it in the future. There isn’t going to be a simple fix that guarantees it won’t happen again. “Just install an app” isn’t treatment.
It’s like you’re not reading what i’m saying on purpose.
So perpetual liability regardless of what we do? Is that the advice you give? Saying “talk to them” is as vague a response as the advice listed from the first comment i responded to.
I’m not sure if that’s irony or projection.
Start over from the top and try reading the whole thing again. But this time, just try to comprehend what I was saying.
Comprehension goes both ways
Helping them get professional help from a doctor or therapist can be very helpful though. Also ask what you can do to support them.
Sure, if you’re close like that. Support and empathy are great.
It sounds like the implied sequence from your original post was in fact:
Did I get that right? That’s what it sounds like from the mind your own business angle.
Start with the meme.
You had a concern and provided advice.
Your advice followed the format I referenced: “Just (do something obvious that seems simple, and would be if you don’t have ADHD)”
You are frustrated because your advice was ignored.