• latenightnoir@lemmy.world
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    12 hours ago

    Even the fact that they try to do some damage control means they care in a way, otherwise they wouldn’t be bothered by the idea of upsetting you.

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      9 hours ago

      Yep, makes sense to me based on my experience. People do not let down very nicely if you aren’t friends, not because they are mean, but because they most likely don’t care.

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        5 minutes ago

        Yep! If not outright friends, then at least willing to be friendly, which counts just as much.

        And even if they go the full honesty route, the phrasing and attitude matters a lot - some present the truth without hard feelings, simply telling you what’s on their mind, others kind of use the truth to push you away.