For future reference, it’s your cortisol levels. When you’re stressed for a long time they build up more and more, which means they take longer to come down
Of course! Look into some breathing exercises and maybe poke around a bit into some CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy, not the other one lol… Well maybe the other one if you think it’ll help) theory. Just understanding why your body does stuff can make a huge difference in what it actually does.
Since my therapist taught me about my cortisol levels a while back, it’s become a lot easier for me to identify things like “I’m anxious right now, so my cortisol levels are going up which is going to reduce how elegantly I can perform tasks. I should opt for less flashy movements to cause myself less frustration” and then my anxiety goes down regardless of how I actually change my behavior
Nope! I have a superiority complex, which manifests largely in the way that I do things. I flip water bottles when I pick them up, or spin things around quickly and catch them for example.
However, I’m human and humans are prone to mistakes. Learning to identify when I’m more prone to mistakes than normal and reducing those flashy behaviors has helped me a lot with my anger issues
Mm, close. You know when a kid gets killed in a shooter game and accuse the enemy of hacking? My brain comes to that sort of conclusion about the fucking inanimate object when it doesn’t move how I want it to.
Is it dumb as shit? Yeah. Did identifying this stupid behavior in myself help me change it? Hell yeah!
The actual practices are neither here nor there. Honestly, I only suggest CBT material because I know you can find knowledge about why your body does things and the less obvious effects those things have on your mental state. You can probably find a lot of the same information in any therapeutic theory, but what’s important is understanding yourself well enough that you can affect those things intentionally as well
last night I finished something very stressful for me, but then my anxiety refused to accept the fact I no longer had to stress about it.
So I was up half the night with irrational stress dreams and anxious thoughts.
Why can’t my pride and satisfaction have the stubbornness of my anxiety?!
For future reference, it’s your cortisol levels. When you’re stressed for a long time they build up more and more, which means they take longer to come down
Thank you, I never really understood why that happened and it was pretty frustrating to feel that without having any reason.
Of course! Look into some breathing exercises and maybe poke around a bit into some CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy, not the other one lol… Well maybe the other one if you think it’ll help) theory. Just understanding why your body does stuff can make a huge difference in what it actually does.
Since my therapist taught me about my cortisol levels a while back, it’s become a lot easier for me to identify things like “I’m anxious right now, so my cortisol levels are going up which is going to reduce how elegantly I can perform tasks. I should opt for less flashy movements to cause myself less frustration” and then my anxiety goes down regardless of how I actually change my behavior
When you say less flashy movements are you talking about video games?
Nope! I have a superiority complex, which manifests largely in the way that I do things. I flip water bottles when I pick them up, or spin things around quickly and catch them for example.
However, I’m human and humans are prone to mistakes. Learning to identify when I’m more prone to mistakes than normal and reducing those flashy behaviors has helped me a lot with my anger issues
So you try and flip water bottles constantly and then get angry when you don’t do it well in front of people?
Mm, close. You know when a kid gets killed in a shooter game and accuse the enemy of hacking? My brain comes to that sort of conclusion about the fucking inanimate object when it doesn’t move how I want it to.
Is it dumb as shit? Yeah. Did identifying this stupid behavior in myself help me change it? Hell yeah!
Thanks
I did CBT a while ago and it wasn’t the solution for me, but maybe the theory will help
The actual practices are neither here nor there. Honestly, I only suggest CBT material because I know you can find knowledge about why your body does things and the less obvious effects those things have on your mental state. You can probably find a lot of the same information in any therapeutic theory, but what’s important is understanding yourself well enough that you can affect those things intentionally as well
in my experience the leftover anxiety buildup will stick around even after the stressor is over. it takes at least a day to clear properly
gotta take time to start unwinding while the adrenaline is still running around or it’s going to hit you all at once