Now I’m definitely on your side by temperament but my understanding is that they do this to try and build social bonding. (They don’t have the capacity or inclination to bond by infodumping about their special interest(s))
(They don’t have the capacity or inclination to bond by infodumping about their special interest(s))
That’s an insight I’ve missed. What a sad way to live.
I imagine it’s unwillingness to be vulnerable.
I love how all my board game playing acquaintances just risk it and tell me. Either the board game community is desperate for recruits or maybe something about my vibe sets off gamer-radar.
It’s not small talk for 5 minutes. It’s “hey I gotta short question. Can you help me deorglefy the gnarflepoof I may or may not have installed on my computer or maybe my phone I can’t remember and now the power outlet won’t work anymore whenever I plug in my computer even when I register for the additional services with my ISP?”
Just imagine, being stuck in small talk for as many as 5 minutes!
Stopping for 5 minutes would make me late to work.
I don’t want to have this conversation in any way. Why do social customs force me to endure it just because the other person feels the urge to talk?
Now I’m definitely on your side by temperament but my understanding is that they do this to try and build social bonding. (They don’t have the capacity or inclination to bond by infodumping about their special interest(s))
That’s an insight I’ve missed. What a sad way to live.
I imagine it’s unwillingness to be vulnerable.
I love how all my board game playing acquaintances just risk it and tell me. Either the board game community is desperate for recruits or maybe something about my vibe sets off gamer-radar.
It’s not small talk for 5 minutes. It’s “hey I gotta short question. Can you help me deorglefy the gnarflepoof I may or may not have installed on my computer or maybe my phone I can’t remember and now the power outlet won’t work anymore whenever I plug in my computer even when I register for the additional services with my ISP?”
When the neighbor looks like the one in the image, even five seconds is too much for me.