• JeeBaiChow@lemmy.world
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    That she’s a woman makes it that much worse. Didn’t know that nugget before today. Bigots and sexists. All of them.

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      That she’s a woman makes it that much worse.

      Why? An army professional were carrying out their duties, and as a result thereof got assaulted by representatives of the leading law and order candidate. The army professional chose not to press charges but still lives in fear of the law and order loving patriots affection for domestic terrorism.

      I don’t see how the gender makes it worse.

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        While I see what you’re saying, it unfortunately does make it worse. As a woman in the military, she already has to put up with enough B.S. My wife retired from the navy over 10-years ago, and still works for the DOD. She still sees and puts up with the sexism and misogyny. For sure, it’s less than when she first joined back in the 90s, but it’s still enough to get under your skin. Add to that the genuine, and well-founded, fear this woman feels at the prospect of being a target for domestic terrorists her own country is too scared to call out for fear of appearing to be “politically slanted,” and it absolutely does make it worse.

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          What your wife has been through is beyond my imagination. I’m sure she’s been through a lot of bullshit, for no other reason than being a woman. Her memories, and how she feels about it, is 100% valid. Normally that should go without saying, but in this thread I’m not sure that it does.

          I refuse to consciously treat women differently than men. Treating women like fragile little fairy like beings, is doing them a disservice. That the soldier at Arlington was a woman is irrelevant to me, unless she was attacked because of her gender.

          How the Trump staff got away with what they did is baffling to me. That they didn’t get their asses stomped can only mean that the soldier was alone and outnumbered. And that she has to live in fear now, that’s absurd, not implausible, but the situation is definitely absurd. Your country is rife with domestic terrorists and yet your government does nothing. Whether someone should get charged for attacking army personal should not be up to the individual. If you attack army personal carrying out their duties, then that should be met with swift and effective sanctions, not frigging threats of further terrorism.

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        If I start talking shit to you and push you down, that’s wrong. If go talk shit to your wife and push her down, that’s worse. You don’t attack women.

        I thought that was a universally known thing. Well, unless you’re a republikkklown.

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            I see what you are saying. But no. It’s not the same. Women have been historically discriminated and abused, in backward places like the US they still are. This context of abuse and discrimination does make the attack worse. Not because it is worse for the person, but because discriminated people have less accessibiliry to health and social services they need to recover from being attacked. Because it is harder to get help if you’re not a passing white man in the US, it is not the same to be hurt if you don’t have pale skin, speak north American English, and ‘look’ male, it is worse.

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          Why would it make it worse.

          You attack a man, that’s bad. You attack a woman, that’s bad.

          Baing a man doesn’t justify you being hit.

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            Show me where I said being a man justifies you being hit?

            You won’t, I didn’t say that. I said it’s wrong. I said it’s worse for a man to hit a women. Take your bullshit somewhere else.

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              Well, if hitting a woman is worse than hitting a man, then it must mean that hitting a man is not as bad.

              So I can just hit men and say “at least I didn’t hit a woman”. That’s justifying hitting a man for just being a man.

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                No, you can hit a man and you’ll get hit back just as hard. You can hit a woman, and she’ll be knocked the fuck out.

                Just because you don’t punch children in the face doesn’t mean its OK to punch men in the face. It just means one can defend themselves better and that you like to pick on those you see as weaker.

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                  Original comment: hitting a man is as bad as hitting a woman.

                  Latest comment: proof by contradiction that hitting a woman is not worse than hitting a man if you’re not justifying hitting a man.

                  To me, “hitting a man is as bad as hitting a woman” and “hitting a woman is not worse than hitting a man” are equal statements. How is that moving the goalpost?

                  “Hitting a woman is worse than hitting a man” is just sexism.

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              By saying that it’s worse to hit a woman, you are being sexist. You also implied that violence against men, which disproportionately outnumbers violence against women, doesn’t matter. Saying that it’s bad doesn’t matter when you are creating a sexist double standard.

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            You attack a man, that’s bad. You attack a woman, that’s bad.

            Women are routinely singled out for violence because they tend to be smaller and less intimidating.

            The Groypers targeted her because she was a woman. JD Vance and his ilk don’t consider professional women legitimate. And quite a few of her male colleagues share that view.

            So while picking a fight with a man invokes the angry of all his friends, Groypers feel confident they can single out a woman because her fellows have already left her isolated.

            That’s what’s fucked about this situation.

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          If you come at me, you’ll deal with me. If you come at my wife, then good fucking luck, you’re on your own, I’m not saving you, she’s fucking fierce.

          All jokes aside, if you treat people differently based on their gender, then you’re acting sexist. Just don’t go around attacking people, how fucking hard is that?

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            That’s the thing though, I wouldn’t go after your wife. I guess I was raised differently. I was raised with “you don’t hit women”. You come at me, I’m going to fight back. Your wife comes after me, I’m not going to hit her.

            The Dementia DonOLD staffer must have felt really strong after pushing her. It’s just a shame he gets away with it. If he pushed her, I’m sure he’s beat the hell out of his wife and/or ex girlfriends.

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              Maybe you want gender inequality, but I don’t. The idea that you’re not supposed to defend yourself if a woman attacks you, is based on what? Your motivation is your upbringing, if I understand you correctly, but where is the idea from? The people who raised you must have gotten it from somewhere.

              I’m going to go out on a limb and speculate that somewhere down the line, that idea stems from the “women are fragile and weak, and need protection”-story. Even if it doesn’t stem from this, then that’s how it can be perceived. Women are not necessarily weak, but treating women like they’re less capable than men is amplifying that image, in the minds of both genders. Which can end up with women actually believing the story themselves.

              So even if you have all the best intentions, which I’m sure you have, you’re still doing women in general a disservice. Treat women like equals, and they’ll eventually believe in it.

              Imagine being told that you probably couldn’t tie your own shoelaces because you’re a guy, and every time you put on your shoes, a woman would come running up and insist on tieing them for you. And if you somehow managed to get to tie them yourself, then every woman you met was second guessing you. It seems absurd, right? It’s kinda the same thing, except for tieing shoes it’s random things, that may or may not require physical strength.

              The idea of not protecting women, and being sick of being cuddled, is not that new. I mean Gwen Stefani wrote a song about it in 96 https://genius.com/No-doubt-just-a-girl-lyrics

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                Pretty big stretch from pushing down a women to a woman tying my shoes. I’m talking about physical violence. I’m all for equality, but it’s a scientific fact that men are bigger and stronger (not all, I get it, but you also get it) than women. If you think it’s the exact same for you to go push a man down as it is to push a woman down, I’m sorry, I’m not going to agree with that statement. The same “rule” applies to beating a kid or an elderly person.

                Judging by your name, you grew up in a different country where you must have a different opinion of women or your women are the same size and strength as the men. Every hear the phrase pick on someone your own size? Sort of relates.

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                  I definitely didn’t grow up in North America. And the culture in which I live, gender equality may be more prevalent.

                  I’m not a stranger to the idiom of picking on someone your own size. Thing is, though: I don’t think anyone should be picking on anybody else, at all.

                  While I don’t disagree that there are physiological differences between men and women, jumping to the conclusion, that women can’t handle themselves, is just propagating the sexual stereotypes of our past generations, which has lead to women being considered weak and by extension thereof worth less than men.

                  Women are not weak by default, but keep telling a girl that she’s not able to do the same things as the boys, keep telling the girl to wear pink dresses and keep her hair long, keep telling her to play with dolls and let her bother’s matchbox cars and BB gun be. Keep telling her, that good girls don’t play wild games, and that little girl will start to believe you more than she believes in herself.

                  Through my job I’ve gotten know female carpenters, painters, electricians, machinists, mechanics, butchers, truck drivers, and smiths. All trades typically considered to be male trades, but these young women I’ve met, have been as motivated, as big assets for their employers, and as hard working, as their male colleagues.

                  Telling a woman that you won’t hit her, no matter what she does to you, is keeping her down, locked into that inane stereotypical gender role.

                  And if you don’t buy my shoelace analogy, then how about this: a guy tells you “oh no, I wouldn’t dream of hitting you, not under any circumstance. You’re too weak and defenseless, it wouldn’t be fair.” How would you like that? I’d bet you’d like that guy to fuck right off with his superior attitude.

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                    I’m not saying women are weak, I’m saying men are typically stronger. That’s not really up for debate. Yeah there’s a lot of women that are man strong, that’s not the norm. Here, if a girl comes up and punches you in the face and keeps swinging, if you hit her back, you’re going to jail. She’ll be given a ride home or let go on the scene.

                    Funny thing about your last sentence, I’ve pretty much said that to people when I was a bouncer and they’re trying to fight me.

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          You don’t attack women.

          The Redditness is leaking hard when people can read the events in this story and still not understand the implicit misogyny in singling out women for physical abuse.

          I don’t know how we’re ever going to reach any kind of class consciousness in our hateful, violent, vulgar society when a mob of Groypers baring down on a woman is just an acceptable consequence she should have seen coming.

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            According to the DOJ you are making shit up. Men make up over 70% of all violent crime victims. The only one that comes close is SA, and even there men still make up just over 50% of that group. But go ahead and froth and seethe over your precious minority that must be protected since they can’t defend themselves.

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        Two words: mother issues. It’s a self perpetuating problem. Conservatives belittle their women, their women take it out on their kids. Their kids grow up warped. Their warped kids belittle women.