• QuentinCallaghanA
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    5 months ago

    Well, if anon thinks he is too late at 30+ years, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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    I don’t know if this helps, but I didn’t meet my wife until I was in my forties. You have time.

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        Obviously you are completely alone in your fifties being single, everyone else is in happy relationships.

        If the sarcasm wasn’t clear, it’s literally never too late.

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          I had a friend during nurse training who divorced at 50, thought she was never going to be in another relationship, then met someone with whom she was happier than she ever imagined.

          It’s definitely possible.

          People can get married to the right person in their 20s or 30s, change into different people, split up and find that someone else is now the right person.

          You also get access to a much larger widow/widower market once you pass 50…

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        It’s never, never too late. I’ve seen men aged 60-75 get GFs and wives. One of them even had children with his new wife. Talk of the town is that one of these men never had a partner before.

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    At 30+ my romantic relationships are far more personal and romantic then any relationship I had in my 20’s…

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      It takes a lot of work and compromise. You are getting one glance at a lifetime.

      I got married sorta recently. My biggest hold-up was the fact that the most optimal outcome of marriage was this: I was going to spend the remainder if my life making them happy, always being there, and being an essential part of their existence, and when they need me most, in their golden days, near the end, they’re gonna have to hold my hand and watch me fucking die.

      I told them this before I proposed, and the crazy thing was, they were still all for it.

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      Yup, my brother married a wonderful woman when he was in his late 30s. They’ve been married >5 years and they still seem happy.

      I’ve known people who found love much later as well. It’s never too late OP.

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    If you insist on it being a girl, then yeah, it’s too late. Adult relationships have their own brand of sweet and romantic.

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    Everyone complaining about the gross vibes of the post, which like yeah, true. But also even within the framing of the post itself it’s just bad. The second and third lines are basically “realise X”. The third line adds nothing of value to the original OP’s intent.

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      What gross vibes?

      Don’t lump the guy in with incels. He’s not blaming other people for his problems, or complaining. He’s just lamenting. I don’t see anything in his post that’s gross. Leave a lonely dude alone. God forbid he let himself feel sad for 5 seconds.

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        Sure, but why are you directing that at me? The point of my comment was to point out that that wasn’t the main thing of note in the OP.

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          I take you at your word that that was your intention, but it doesn’t read that way. It comes off with a tone of mockery and hostility.

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            The tone was like that mainly because it was being dismissive of what was already the majority of other comments in this thread. It was essentially “hey, you guys are all saying this, but here’s another perspective.”

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              You’re literally the only person talking about “gross vibes” I can see in this thread. And you said “yeah, true” which to me indicates that you also think there was something gross about the post.

              Might be related to some fediverse defederation stuff.

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                  It feels a little ridiculous that we’ve gotten 6 comments deep into this, but…

                  None of those comments make any claims about poster. 2 of them are pedantic jokes in the “Can I use the bathroom?/I don’t know, can you?” school of ignoring colloquial usage, and one is what I assume is a well-intentioned legitimate caution about not getting caught in a cyclical spiral of self-defeatism.

                  As to the meme format, a green text can be anything from an epic 50+ post story about faking an IT job, to a single line about hating one’s name, to threatening a cartoon cat, so I’m not sure what template format it’s violating. If you don’t think it’s particularly well-written or interesting, that’s fine of course, but just say that.