This question has been around for a while but I’m curious as to your answer

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        Viral hypothetical “would you rather spend a night in the woods with a bear or a man”. Toxic men getting butthurt when women chose the bear

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          That entire question was just pure rage bait from the start, without even resulting in any useful data

          To whoever asked the question in the first place, I congratulate you for comming up with the perfect rage bait question.

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            That entire question was just pure rage bait

            Isn’t that the point though? The fact that the question was asked and rather than think “shit, could we be better?”, some men are literally seething with anger about it?

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              I get what you mean, but mostly disagree, the options given as the answer is too broad.

              I mean, if the man was in the forest to pick berries, and focusing on that and the bear was a female bear with cubs, the situation is completely different from a man wearing a mask and sunglasses staring at the woman and a black bear crossing the path to go and sleep.

              The question is too generic to draw any usable conclusions from.

              The best response to seeing the answers would have been for men to just ignore it, or say that they are sad to learn the results but that the question is mostly meningless

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                  This is still a purely theoretical choise, and since they won’t face any immediate consequences from their response, they might as well use the question for their own shock factor to try and make a point.

                  I wonder if all women who actually had to choose between getting into a forrest alone with a bear nearby or get into a different forrest alone with a man nearby would actually pick the bear.

                  But I hope that no one ever has to make this choice.

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              I imagine that black men view the question as particularly insulting

              Because we live in a country that already perceives black men as animals.

              So seeing so many women recently affirm that perception likely is extremely isolating. Because this is the sort of ideology that gets black men murdered

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                why would black men find a thread full of comments about women fearing for their safety to be insulting?

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                  Because white tears cause black scars. As Emmitt Till found out

                  When men are seen as threats, this translates into the murder of men, particularly those who are in national minority groups. Black, brown, immigrant, Muslim, etc men are threatened by this type of discourse, at least within the United States

                  Which is kind of what BLM was all about - that black men are just people and are not dangerous super predators like many white people, including white women, seem to think

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                America might see black men as animals, but I don’t think the UK is quite there yet. Also, the question doesn’t mention race or skin tone, so I’m not sure how we got there.

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                  The UK does not have a good history on race. Or on welcoming immigrants. Hence Brexit. And, also, the entirety of the British Empire.

                  The human brain has an ability to understand implicit narratives without a thing needing to be explicitly stated. If you ask a person to imagine a dangerous and strange man, I very much doubt that most Western people are honestly going to imagine a man that is white. Which is what this question is actually all about

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              Typoman, typoman does whatever a typoman does, especially on mobile while on a bus

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          It would depend on the man surely? And possibly the bear, now thinking 🤔

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          Hypothetically, if the person only liked men, is there even a point to wearing it anymore? Does it cease to even be “slutty” now?

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            Regardless of what sex they’re into, if they deem an outfit as “slutty” then it’s slutty.

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            Guess what, one can dress slutty for their own benefit. It doesn’t have to be in service of anyone or anything other than satisfying the vibe of the moment. Maybe it’s something they have always wanted to try without being the center of attention? Men are so fucked in the head sometimes.

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              No need for personal attacks, it was more of a philosophical question, like would the concept of slutty even exist in a practical way anymore if there weren’t any men left.

              Also I’m a woman

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                I mean bisexual and lesbian women would still exist so I don’t see why the concept of being slutty wouldn’t.

                I’ll admit I don’t really understand the concept of wanting to dress a certain way but also not wanting anyone to look at you for it? Like, I give a very little fucks about what people think I have gone to the store in my robe (sweats and basic tshirt under) in the winter before. I know damn well people are looking at me and thinking I’m just some trashy bum for it but I don’t really give a fuck I’m doing it for me because it’s comfortable it doesn’t bother me in the slightest that they judge me for it, if anything they’re probably just jealous.

                And I feel like the same should extend to women that want to dress in revealing clothing, yeah some people are going to look at you for it. But why does that have to bother you? You’re doing it for you not them

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              Yeah I agree with everything in this comment except for the unnecessary hostility in the last sentence.

              People can be slutty if they want. And people can judge you for being or appearing slutty if they want. It’s up to you to decide how to react to their opinions. If you want to dress slutty, then you shouldn’t care what people think about how you dress because you are just being you. And that’s not a matter of sex-- that’s a matter of self confidence. And you can’t blame your self confidence on other people, because at the end of the day you can’t change other people. You can either change yourself or empower yourself to resist change and forge your own path. It’s your choice.

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    I asked my sister and my mum this question.

    Sister: she’d be working as usual. Her only co-worker in their small biz is also a woman, so no issue. She asked about her male cats first, before asking about my nephew and BIL.

    Mum: she said that she’d be eating air fryer French fries and ice cream through the day and watching movies. She can’t be arsed to cook. (I’m usually the one cooking here.)

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      I believe that less than it looks like.

      While only 5% of the pilots are women, flight attendants receive basic training for emergency situations, such as when the pilot is incapacitated. I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of them could actually land a plane in a life-and-death situation, or at least find a passenger who can.

      With buses the picture is a bit brighter. If I had to guess, 20% of the bus drivers around the world are female? And a missing driver doesn’t automatically spells your death - the bus might be going slow due to traffic, and a lot of people are able to at least step on a brake.

      EDIT: I’m genuinely curious about the downvotes. If I said something that is either factually wrong (false) or morally wrong (sexist, insensitive, etc.), feel free to point out, as I can’t guess anything based on downvotes alone.

      Alternatively, if the downvotes are due to a faulty reasoning, then please show the flaw.

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        Also, if you have a driver’s license, you probably know enough to safely stop a bus even if your license is for personal vehicles only. And while I don’t know the numbers, I’m pretty sure the percentage is much higher.

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          Yup. The main concern in the bus situation is how suddenly the driver disappeared vs. reaction time of the passengers. If it’s sudden enough, and the bus is fast enough, even if all passengers were able to drive it, odds are that it’ll still crash.

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        Flight attendants won’t be landing anything without flight controllers. Especially in busy airports like Heathrow. Even if you leave men pilots in place and only remove men traffic controllers, all the planes will crash.

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        Yeah but what percentage of air traffic controllers are women? Those that are will have to coordinate a lot more landings than usual.

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    Going for a topless walk on the beach at night! It’s the only time I’d feel safe enough to. I’ve been sexually harassed and assaulted enough, starting back when I was a little girl, to know I could never do that normally.

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    Full hair and makeup, sparkly dress that shows a lot, go to a trendy bar with my friends and get blackout ass drunk without worrying about protecting my drink all night and knowing I can walk home by myself.

    In the morning I would nurse the hangover while ordering the biggest ass teddy 🐻 bear 🐻 that will fit through my door as a memento.

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    Dress up, go out and to a bar all by myself, meet strangers without worrying about how to get rid of them later.

    Go to the nicest sauna in town, spa all day.

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        “Small penis” is a euphemism/metaphor to describe men who act like obnoxious douchebags because they’re compensating for some undisclosed physical/psychosocial/emotional insecurity.

        Can anyone provide reasons why men intentionally equip their cars with ear-damaging, bone-rattling, illegal decibels of obnoxious maddening noise? This accomplishes nothing for them other than everyone hating them and labeling them as douchebags. People like that are the reason I intentionally do not own a gun because I would lose control with it the first time a car like that comes within my sight.

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          I know what the euphemism stands for. But reverse the situation, put small tits somewhere in the sentence and suddenly it’s big bad.

          Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one who tries to imagine what people will feel like when reading stuff. And I’m imagining a guy whose only “crime” is having been born with a small penis and having to constantly read how that makes him a macho.

          Why does everyone forget how to behave when it comes to men? Y’all are being quite disgusting.

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            Nah if someone was being a douche because they were compensating for a lack of tits, I’d say they’re in the small tits club.

            As it stands though, it’s just kind of the saying because of some random cultural thing that dates back to at least Shrek probably. (Don’t judge me for my timeframe)

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          I am glad I am not the only one who thinks about shooting at loud cars and bikers. I genuinely would if I could.

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          Q: Reason why I intentionally have a great car stereo?

          A: I’m a junglist.

          Q: What does it accomplish?

          A: makes me feel better.

          Q: what is your trauma that you feel the need to shoot people that like music you do not?

          A: nothing, you are just in need of help.

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            Do you have other sociopathic traits which cause you to thoughtlessly selfishly behave in ways that disturb others/wake people up with heart attacks/wake up sleeping babies/cause noise pollution, for your own pleasure? Do you feel like silence is an uncomfortable void that must always be filled? Do you not realize that silence is the neutral mode in which we all live peaceably, and when silence is broken it’s best done purposefully & meaningfully, not obnoxious & intrusive & selfish? Who wants to hear your music? YOU do. No one else does.

            WEAR HEADPHONES.

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                What’s against the law? Wearing headphones? You’re the only one who wants to hear your music. Wear headphones.

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                  You are a stupid fuck that doesn’t listen. It’s against the law to wear headphone while driving. What the fuck is your problem?

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          Because we’re cavemen and must show others our big stick. Look! Go bang!