• mycodesucks@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    At that point it does depend on your goals. I have always wanted to play jazz piano, but it is absolutely impossible at my age to reach a level of proficiency that would satisfy me. Taking on the learning would be pouring a woefully insufficient amount of free time into an effort that at my advanced age would yield INCREDIBLY slow process only to be continually frustrated for the effort.

    If my goal were to just play around with it and have fun? Sure. But this comic’s protagonist is lamenting the loss of DECADES of experience. He’s not looking to strum a guitar in his free time. He’s looking for real proficiency. And there is no shame in his acknowledging that at some point, you are old enough where it is no longer realistically achievable.

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      6 months ago

      Assumedly the character in the comic is not on death’s doorstep, and they’re also not drawn as being particularly old. The character theoretically has decades ahead of them. If they’re lamenting the lack of decades of experience, they still have decades in which to gather said experience.

      A lot has been said about the lack of free time that comes with age, but that only exists to a point. Additional responsibilities created by having children fade as they age and eventually move out of home. After middle age people often move into the twilight of their careers where they’re less focussed on work progression and are able to use their free time better as opposed to working towards the next promotion. Eventually, we usually retire and have almost as much free time as when we were children.

      I get that taking on a brand new hobby in your 40s seems daunting, but it’ll only get easier and easier from that age onwards.

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        6 months ago

        I’m not saying that it’s impossible or even a bad idea for someone to take on a new hobby late in life. I absolutely applaud anybody who does so. What I’m objecting to is the implication that there’s something inconsistent or shameful about this guy’s claim that he’s too old. There isn’t. There’s a world of difference between starting young and starting older, and there’s no shame or failing in his view - certainly not enough to be the punchline of a comic.

        Is it brave and empowering to start a new hobby in advanced age? Absolutely. Is it also brave to acknowledge the limitations of one’s advanced age and accept the time for some things have passed? Yes.

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      5 months ago

      have always wanted to play jazz piano, but it is absolutely impossible at my age to reach a level of proficiency that would satisfy me

      Again if you don’t want to learn jazz piano, absolutely fine - I just honestly don’t get why not even try. But maybe you just need a couple more years to let go of to hard expectation for your self and just try it out. Worst case you learned to play piano worse than you would like to.

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        5 months ago

        See, that’s the thing though. That’s not the worst case scenario. The worst case scenario is while I’m doing that I’m forgoing time and energy that is so limited now and could be better spent spending time with my family, or keeping up with housework, or even just resting to prepare for the job that makes everything else possible. For many people, especially as their energy reduces over time, the sheer number of demands that come with age do not provide for “what the heck, let’s try it” with any regularity. I appreciate the thought, but when capacity is limited everything comes with an opportunity cost.

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          5 months ago

          There are always reasons not to do things. Which is what the comic is ultimately about for me. But than again - you have your life and I don’t know what is going on there - so no judgment. I just always thing we all need some creative outlet and I love getting people who don’t do creative stuff into doing it, be it just for one time (since I’m not a musician I like to draw with folks). And I’m not the youngest myself - so it’s not like I’m talking completely out of my ass.