• FuglyDuck@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    Yes because “I’m 18!” Really works, (or most parental controls.)

    I was 8 or 9 when I discovered my dad’s password book. Kids can and will find a way.

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        9 months ago

        I didn’t say it was.

        But if you really think highschool students aren’t going to find their teachers on the internet… social media, OF… whatever… then you’re brain dead.

        As for if it’s appropriate or not… let me ask you, would it be appropriate for her to say, put on a strip show for her students, while they wanked off to it?

        Cuz that’s exactly what happened.

        Further consider the number of times that teachers have been terminated (or calls for that,) after shitty social media posts (racism, sexism, bigotry. The list is long.)

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          But if you really think highschool students aren’t going to find their teachers on the internet… social media, OF… whatever… then you’re brain dead.

          But, again, that’s not her problem.

          As for if it’s appropriate or not… let me ask you, would it be appropriate for her to say, put on a strip show for her students, while they wanked off to it?

          That’s not at all what happened, so this isn’t relevant.

          Cuz that’s exactly what happened.

          No it isn’t.

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            That’s not at all what happened, so this isn’t relevant.

            Cuz that’s exactly what happened.
            

            No it isn’t.

            She was outed by people who knew her. She thinks it’s a video with her husband’s face, but that’s not necessarily true. You don’t know that students weren’t the ones who recognized her. Any identifying tatoos that might be visible… her voice. Or maybe they were lurking on her other social media and recognized his face.

            But at this point, I guarantee you, after it got out… her students definitely have seen her. Regardless of whether or not her then-students knew or found out, her current students absolutely have. or at least, a few of them. This is not the kind of thing that just goes away; and she hasn’t tried to make it go away. in fact she’s monetized the drama.

            It is a bit odd that another school hired her without knowing about the account, though. That school needs to have a look at it’s screening process.

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          But they don’t know to look for it do they, and it’s not like it’s listed under her name so there no more likely to find her than any other OF content creator

          Maybe a co worker is on the site, statistically probably some are, how would I check for that other than to go through every single profile to see if one of them is theirs. Plus I have no necessary reason to suspect that one would be, so why would I do that?

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            You think teenagers aren’t on OF?

            As for being discovered, it’s probably just random chance. It happens. It could have been anyone. Students, coworkers. Parents. Friends.

            There’s ways of identifying people online, and plenty of weirdos dox or try to dox sex workers.

            Once she got doxxed, all bets are off, though.

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              9 months ago

              But she wasn’t discovered it was apparent that made the complaint, how did they find it? 🤔. So the children demonstrably didn’t know.

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        9 months ago

        Punish?

        This whole thing is a consequence of her initial action.

        There is a direct and detrimental impact to her ability to do her job, and you’re forgetting that aspect of it.

        Or do you think the school should wait until a student starts stalking her? Or having a constant barrage of sexual harassment? Would you be okay with her bringing 18 yo students on for content?

        She didn’t break any laws, per se. And we shouldn’t shame her for sex work. Even so, actions have consequences and she professes to have known this was “a risk” going into it.

        The schools can’t undo what she decided to do. The schools choices are to either ignore it and hope more shit doesn’t hit the fan, or terminate her employment. Keep in mind, if another scandal comes out, the whole “the school knew about it” thing is going to make liability an absolute bitch in lawsuits.

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          9 months ago

          Sounds like victim blaming to me. If a student stalks or sexually harassed her, you punish the student.

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            you’re right, if it happens. The problem here is that it’s unnecessary drama that is inevitably going to eat up the school’s legal defense fund; and probably a lot of other funding. You can’t really blame the school for wanting to not deal with that.

            particularly when the school does discipline the student and the parents sue. Even if the school wins, the school looses.

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          The only reason this is impacting her ability to do her job is because other people are making it a problem for her. If people harassed me at my job and my job fired me for it, that wouldn’t be fair. But she’s a woman expressing sexual freedom, of course plenty of people will hate her.

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            So… you don’t think her current students… googled her, found out this was her, and watched her content?

            Or you don’t see how that impacts her ability to teach?

            Which, brings us back to: they know, and it’s available for them to find with far less effort than you imagine. Don’t think so? Ask yourself how her channel blew up after the first time.

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              9 months ago

              I think parents should control their children’s access to the Internet. Teachers are allowed to have a life outside of their extremely demanding underpaid job without puritans demanding that they be a role model for children in every aspect of their lives.

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                Your dodging the question:

                Do you think her students aren’t aware and checking her content; or do you think it doesn’t impact her ability to teach them?

                You’re right there’s a lot of things parents should do. It’s pretty much impossible to completely control a teenagers access, though, and entirely outside of the school’s ability to control. Particularly when students start passing them around off line.

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                  I think your arguments are presumptious and that you aren’t asking a question in good faith. It doesn’t matter if her students are aware of it or not, if she’s not bringing it up in the classroom, she isn’t doing anything wrong.

                  Explain exactly why this makes it impossible for her to effectively teach. I’ll engage once you’ve actually constructed an argument.

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                    9 months ago

                    Are you really going to insist that, having watched pornn of some one; your perception of them hasn’t changed?

                    Perhaps you’re a better human than most. Or entirely disinterested. It’s 2024, they’re hormone-riddled teenagers, at least some of them have watched their teacher in a porno.

                    Even if nothing “happens”, it will be a distraction. There will be those people that aren’t cool about, too. Either freaking out as puritanical assholes or those who can’t handle a crush with out being a creep.

                    We don’t live in an ideal world. It’s not fair, it’s. It not right. But reality is that this is a massive legal liability for the school- one they cannot afford.

                    Ideally, none of this matters. we don’t live in an ideal world and even if we did and it wasn’t a liability then it will always be a distraction. Because this is 2024 and it takes 2 seconds to plug her name into one of a dozen search engines, all of which are going to come up with “teacher suspended/fired for Only Fans” as the top few pages.

                    It’s not her fault. It’s not the schools fault. But it is reality. And reality is jerk.