• Warl0k3@lemmy.world
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        8 days ago

        Asking for evidence when you’re accused of something incredibly heinous isn’t sealioning, especially when they claim it’s obvious - it’s basic defensiveness. I’m asking them to back up their accusations, and they’ve responded with a list of comments that have nothing to do with their accusations. They’re aggressively gaslighting me, not just about that, and although you were hostile to me initially (and I sincerely do not know why, I appreciated your comment but was genuinely confused by it and if I offended I do apologize) I am begging you to look at what they’re doing.

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      Stop. That isn’t evidence. None of those are accusing me of attacking someone while engaging in DARVO-like behavior, which is the claim you made. I haven’t really made a claim for them to say is wrong other than that the person in the meme should be more direct with their friend, a claim you have never engaged with. That I have been misinterpreted about the spirituality of tarot is the bulk of my explanations elsewhere - something you again choose to ignore. You’re again blatantly trying to gaslight me.

      When confronted with evidence, the perpetrator then attacks the person that they had harmed, or are still harming.

      You’re literally doing DARVO while you do this. You have never attempted to engage with me on this, nor my criticism of your behavior in my previous replies here, you’ve simply chosen to attack, attempt to gaslight and accuse me of being the aggressor.

      Look at your comments. I accused you of being a jerk and attacking me, and you immediately:

      Finally, the perpetrator claims that they were or are actually the victim in the situation, thus reversing the positions of victim and offender.

      It’s almost beat for beat.

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        8 days ago

        “I’m not doing Darvo, you’re doing Darvo!”

        Classic. I’ll just leave it up to the peanut gallery to judge.

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          8 days ago

          And again you ignore that you started this and attempt to turn it around on me.

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            8 days ago

            I started this? The top level comment is yours, and you were already arguing with people who called you out by the time I chimed in…

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              You started the accusations of narcissim, including inventing that other people were accusing me of attacking them by engaging in DARVO-like behavior then attempting to gaslight me about it. When you weighed in on this conversation it was to mock me for expressing confusion - that was a discussion not an argument, if a rather rude one - in a conversation where I had sincerely asked for someone else’s perspective and was given a perfunctory lack of explanation. Elsewhere in this thread are very minor arguments, sure - all of them based on a misunderstanding, or (after you joined) one person posting a rude meme.

              You have refused to engage with what I’ve said from the beginning, and you’ve devolved to even trying to gaslight me about being the one who said they were done with this conversation - which, I note, you continue not to be done with.

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                  Sigh. That’s not how you use that, but I’ll point out you’re trying to gaslight me yet again with it by implying that I was somehow sealioning in that comment or this thread.

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                    8 days ago

                    Sealioning means to ignore all evidence while repeatedly demanding evidence in a badgering sort of way, does it not?