I don’t really use social media at all. I do have accounts on instagram and Facebook but only use them to occasionally post my art but never any personal posts, while most of the people i know are borderline addicted to sharing every moment of their life online.

But I’ve been thinking lately that maybe i should be doing more of that. I think it would be easier to talk to people online and then I’d be more comfortable talking to them face to face.

But on the other hand… I feel a bit weird to start posting personal posts suddenly when everyone knows me as someone who doesn’t really do that. I generally have a hard time doing something out of what people expect from me.

This is a bit of a ramble. Anyone have a similar experience/thought process? How do you make friends??

  • MentalEdgeEnglish
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    1 year ago

    No.

    I found that “going out of my comfort zone” in this way does little else aside from make me miserable. Social media platforms like facebook and instagram, are designed to push your buttons, and not in a good way.

    It’s why I was always more comfortable on reddit, where I could discuss things I actually cared about enough to want to do that. And that I was doing so with strangers allowed me to drop a lot of worries I’d have otherwise.

    Using platforms with people I know to share things I don’t want everyone to know in the first place, just to have social life, is an unbearable chore. One that doesn’t even lead to the things one would hope it does.

    I’ve found far greater success in socialising, by just direct messaging people that I think might be worth knowing. And if they are, you’ll automatically keep doing that because you want to. Learning to take that first step to say hello, and continue doing so when I actually enjoy my relationship with someone, has been most productive to me.