“You need to tolerate people constantly crossing your personal boundaries. Forever.”
My sister constantly does things like randomly hug me out of nowhere, even after I asked her not to many many many many many times, and even one time “playfully” slapped my ass in front of everyone.
I was then told that I was an asshole after blowing up on her. Was I? Probably yes. Probably definitely yes. But she was never confronted about her behavior. Now she tells everyone she’s “scared of me” because I yelled at her when she’s “only ever been nice to me.”
I just… I literally am unable to have a relationship with her, ffs. All I want is for her to respect my boundaries???
This year I cut off all ties with my sister and it was one of the best things I’ve ever done in my life. Reason are not quite the same as you but similarly it’s a lot about how she fails to see things from my perspective and how self centered she is. Took me a long time to come to terms that it’s okay to part with my sister, since society sees it as something really extreme. Might not be your case ofc but if you need to, know that it isn’t that crazy of a thing to do.
“You need to tolerate people constantly crossing your personal boundaries. Forever.”
My sister constantly does things like randomly hug me out of nowhere, even after I asked her not to many many many many many times, and even one time “playfully” slapped my ass in front of everyone.
I was then told that I was an asshole after blowing up on her. Was I? Probably yes. Probably definitely yes. But she was never confronted about her behavior. Now she tells everyone she’s “scared of me” because I yelled at her when she’s “only ever been nice to me.”
I just… I literally am unable to have a relationship with her, ffs. All I want is for her to respect my boundaries???
This year I cut off all ties with my sister and it was one of the best things I’ve ever done in my life. Reason are not quite the same as you but similarly it’s a lot about how she fails to see things from my perspective and how self centered she is. Took me a long time to come to terms that it’s okay to part with my sister, since society sees it as something really extreme. Might not be your case ofc but if you need to, know that it isn’t that crazy of a thing to do.