Is it really true that men have been the dominant gender for most of history though? As I understand it, men and women have both been subject to rigid gender roles that they could not choose or get away from, so overall it was equally hard on everyone. It is just that with the advent of feminism, the struggles of women have received more of a focus.

Seeing someone who perceives a double standard and immediately calling them an incel runs counter to your argument. That basic lack of empathy is part of the problem. This is the kind of demonization this post is talking about.