I do want to go, but I don’t want him to suffer for it, it’s not worth that. I’d rather cancel to make him comfortable. For me it’s more about doing something special to celebrate the milestone, it feels like our first big anniversary being the 5th, but that’s probably just me holding on to some weird tradition. I’m thinking about making a nice dinner with him (or maybe for him if he’s still in pain). He’s always been the planner in our relationship, so I really want to do something for him to show him that I appreciate him.
Thank you for the good advice! I just talked to him over my lunch, I didn’t bring up feeling disappointed, but I asked if he’d be willing to try to do some fun activities over our 4-day weekend. I was an expecting a “yeah, sure” but he’s actually really excited about it. I’m going to be planning one or two small things each day, dinner at our favorite restaurant being one of them. I’m also picking some activities that are easy to cancel last minute should he be in too much pain (oh I should plan at home things we can do if that happens, like renting his favorite movie). Thank you again for encouraging me to say something, I have a hard time planning, but he’s worth it.