It’s frustrating. It feels like even progressive men here (not all, but many) aren’t willing to listen, while making it all about them. And because of the vast male majority, it feels like most threads on womens’ issues consist of off-topic defensive comments. I don’t recommend Lemmy to women either.

That being said, you’re all worth it. Reddit as a whole isn’t what it once was. And womens’ Reddit communities tend to have lots of people, which can sometimes lead to negative spiraling when bad things happen. I get it, but it would make my mental health worse.

On Lemmy, it’s a small, friendly space much like the old internet. I recognize a lot of the same folks on these communities. We uplift each other.

Lots of people here can very hostile about us being here, but we’re making this place a little friendlier and more inclusive, and I’m glad we’re all here. We’ve got each other’s backs.

That’s interesting. I think that seems like a good example where the roles would be reversed. I think people really do rely on stereotypes about parenting to assume dads play a secondary or otherwise nonexistent parental role, when that definitely isn’t always the case. Thank you for sharing your experience.

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Something one or multiple people merely think does not reveal any underlying truths. To try to find evidence, one might start from an observation and test a hypothesis. Comedians and pop culture as a whole might mirror society’s ideological mores in some ways, but that alone isn’t sufficient evidence that women are disproportionately intellectually dishonest or inferior.

You have some prejudiced views about women that you need to work out.

Chris Rock and other comedians’ jokes are not peer-reviewed studies or discourse analyses about how women debate intellectually.

Debate? What debate? I thought this was just a hypothetical situtation casually talking about bands, which turns into something condescending. That’s not really a debate situation. Why must we treat it as a Socratic dialogue or a legal proceeding?

But that nonsequitur sure is a sweeping generalization about how you feel about about women debaters. Ironic considering you stated you don’t like sweeping generalizations, real or imagined, in your other comment.

The comments on this post are examples why there are so few women on Lemmy lol.

This was disappointing to read. This post was talking about a specific type of person that was not you, it was not about “how all older white men are the enemy,” and you took it personally. When someone gently told you that you weren’t being targeted, you doubled down and got even more defensive.

I’m sorry, but no one was making sweeping generalizations. We’re talking about a very specific situation that was never stated to be all men.

I don’t understand how your feelings are hurt by a post that had nothing at all to do with you. Judging from your comment, you were never one of the bad ones this post was calling out. It’ll be okay. And there may be other situations where it makes sense to talk about blanket distrust of men that might make life harder for genuinely good guys, though it’s not relevant in this post specifically.

But do you understand how offensive it comes off to equate MAGA Nazis on the same level as mens’ feelings being hurt? The rule of law is being ignored, people are being disappeared, we’re moving closer to Gilead, and the Lemkin Institute issued a genocide warning regarding MAGA blood libel and trans people. How are hurt feelings in any way comparable?

I wish we could have one post in a woman-centric community sharing difficult situations without one of the good men lashing out because they felt personally attacked.

“Reverse sexism.” Okay, so women can never point out hurtful things that might be sexist because it’s sexist against men to point out sexism. No recourse, then? Got it. So, I belive this user is coming at this question in bad faith, as his mind is seemingly made up on what he thinks, so that first question was actually a statement, rather than genuinely asking how we’d respond to the roles being reversed.

If that’s not the case, my mistake. If it is, please go to a different community with this stuff. Your side won the culture war. My side can no longer use our first amendment rights in public peacefully without having the National Guard called. Just leave us in peace in our tiny corners of the internet we have left until my country’s government decides that is also illegal.

Condescension and gatekeeping is never okay. If a woman did this to a man, I would defend the man. So it’s not a double standard.

It’s just that women frequently deal with this when they partake in male-centric hobbies. When this happens, there’s often some element of misogyny at play. So it’s okay for us to point out that specific situation and say it’s frustrating, and doing so doesn’t mean we’re saying this has never happened to men, nor that it’s morally virtuous for women in subcultures to condescend to men.

Also, this culture war thing is so exhausting. Everyone reads between lines and assumes the worst in everyone.

Um, Mist 😅

That in 2025, they’re still obsessed with the idea of a person who is offended by differing opinions and wants to ban them, not recognizing the irony.

Sometimes open discussion might be useful, but with where the world is at, this is usually code for the person not liking gay or trans people, women, or minorities and wants to be able to say slurs openly without consequence.

I live in fear of this type of person, especially as someone who listens to metal which tends to be male-dominated. I’m an album person and I’m not always checking the table of contents when I listen. There are bands I’ve been a fan of for over a decade that I don’t have five songs memorized for. I love these bands and I don’t think I’m fake for liking them or wearing a shirt.

13 was a lot like 6 in that her expanded universe material is way, way better than her TV episodes. Seriously, if you haven’t read “Star Tales,” it has some of the most amazing Doctor Who stories ever, especially the one with Elvis, which made me weep.

And The Witchfinders has an amazing novelization that really dives into gender roles much deeper than the episode itself, thanks to 13’s inner monologue.

And the Doctor Who fanzine “More of the Universe” adds tons of stories that fix Thasmin, and it was endorsed by Jodie herself.

Chibnall is just really bad at writing the character, in my opinion.

I watched his era years after everyone else did. Matt Smith had an amazing first episode with really defined quirky characterization. Then his next few episodes, he’s mostly just angry and shouting at everyone, and all of that fun eccentric energy just goes away. During that part of series 5, I was calling him the “Gordon Ramsay” Doctor.

After that, his characterization just felt really inconsistent and all over the place, to the point where he felt like three different characters inelegantly melded into one. It’s way harder to get a read on his overall personality than every other Doctor, and I need to rewatch to make sense of his very disparate psyches and emotional responses to things.

By series 6, the show fell victim to a “mystery box” writing style where Moffat seemed to be making it up as he went along. Much like Sherlock, he was also constantly teasing Tumblr theorists to the detriment of the writing…

He also unlearns a lot of the Tenth Doctor’s lessons with little to no commentary or repercussions.

I spent his entire era craving the consistent characteristics I saw in The Eleventh Hour and rarely getting that. Exceptions: Amy’s Choice, The Lodger, Night Terrors, Closing Time, and his finale were all fantastic Eleventh Doctor episodes, and if he had depicted like that in every episode, he’d be my favorite.

Honestly, I think people like Governor Tony’s vibe but some are racist and didn’t want to elect a Black senator and swung the vote right last time around.

Which is a shame, because Mandela Barnes would have been an amazing senator.

I have not! I’ll have to check it out!

I love high-waisted jeans for the same reasons! I can get into all my old dresses, but they can be a little tight, so those are for special occasions only until I have a flat tummy again 🙃

Rotten Pumpkin by Simon’s Nest is my favorite perfume ever. It smells like fall, with notes of patchouli, cinnamon, and pumpkin.

It’s been my go-to fragrance for years, though I also like Wistful Hedges and Kitchen Witchery, by the same maker, Burberry London, although that’s tecnically a men’s fragrance, and Hattai Le Couvent, for what I can only describe as “Cinnabon stand at a mall.”

I mostly just buy drugstore makeup lol. When I do my goth look though, I really like Manic Panic products.

I’m not considered overweight based on my height, but I weigh about 5-10 pounds more than I’d like to, since any excess weight seems to go to my tummy. I was a little mortified when the internet invented a new word to make people feel inadequate – skinny fat – because, yep, that’s me. 😮‍💨 I can hide my stomach pretty well with clothes, and people say I’m thin, but it can hurt a little looking in the mirror, and swimming is out of the question.

I work out every day, but I just can’t seem to get get the flat tummy I had in my college days.