• SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml
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    9 months ago

    Whenever I tried imitating somebody else’s personality to fit in I ended up feeling very insecure. What worked far better is cultivating bits of my own personality and being more selective about the type of people I want to fit in with.

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      9 months ago

      I had a friend in school who liked to imitate people. Except he was always using the same voice and body language when he was imitating. So you knew he was trying to imitate someone, but you had no idea who that was supposed to be, and it was very funny. I told him that, one day, and he was shocked by the realization.

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      9 months ago

      My experience growing up was that I had personality traits that were strong since birth (and still are today), and every other traits that I developed as I aged and experienced life.

      In these growing years, the people I looked up to, the artists I liked and any other person that had something interesting to me all had an effect on my personality because I replicated the things I liked about these people.

      So reading the green text, he probably did the same thing with Jerry and it became a part of his personality.

    • UNWILLING_PARTICIPANT@sh.itjust.works
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      9 months ago

      Yeah you can ship of Theseus yourself into a more enjoyable person that way, but still stay mindful of the individual parts you’re taking.

      The first thing I ever consciously took was my friend’s laugh. It was just so open and joyful, and I really admired that part of him. Anyway thanks, Eric. I love it.