• MagicPterodactyl@lemmy.ml
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    5 months ago

    Luckily I’ve found this is also a lot less common when talking to younger queer people. A lot of older gays have become unwilling to accept anything outside of what being queer meant when they were younger.

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      5 months ago

      Intuitively that makes sense to me (let’s be fair … ageing sucks), especially for members of an oppressed minority.

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        5 months ago

        Definitely. It’s hard to blame older queer folks for having some trouble empathizing with younger parts of their community that have generally had a much easier time expressing their sexually and are now shaping the community in ways they do not understand. Of course I’ll never excuse bigotry, but I do think most of older gays reservations about the way their community is changing come from a place of fear not malice.