For me, trying to respect boundaries tires me out more. idk why.

I struggled to respect boundaries as a child and early teenager. I think I still struggle to respect boundaries; but I am uncertain because I haven’t talked to an acquaintance in 7 months.

As a child and early teenager; I constantly hit on my female friends. (I don’t know why.)

  • I keep looking at people’s feet and it tires me. I don’t know if I developed a foot fetish; or it’s just a habitual behavior that I developed because I hate eye contact.

I know that ignoring boundaries can cause health problems long term.


My reasoning for this behavior:

  • I do get pressured by my parent to go to the store with them because, to me, they’re ~40 and may struggle to transport groceries.

  • After 8 years age, I used to be pressured to go to church; but that stopped when I became a teenager.

  • I only hungout with a friend at home once. Usually I only have acquaintances. Maybe I have less experience with friendship.

I think I feel pressured to go along with everything.

  • greensand@lemmy.ml
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    3 years ago

    Being pressured can backfire, like in your case. It’s a 1st step to realize what the causes are for the urge of trespassing boundaries.

    The next step would be to not go along with everything, but to say no when you feel that it’s starting to overwhelm you.

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      3 years ago

      This is good advice. I’ll try to utilize it in the future; but I’m pretty forgetful so it may take some time.