You joke but it did make my social life a lot easier. You keep meeting other parents (at doctors, community organized activities, for playdates and so on) and instantly have something to talk about. Oh mine has the shits, mine won’t latch, ours started rolling on his belly last week.
Then you start gifting and receiving gifts because yours grew out of his sleeping bag or the inlaws gave something absurd for your situation but someone else might find it useful and you develop actual adult friendships.
I had the exact same experience with becoming a parent! It’s a super easy thing that almost anyone can talk about without being too personal, touchy or deep
I know this. I’d be like, “oh shit a smalltalker …”
What works for me is to start talking about what hapened to me. Similar to what @branchial@feddit.de suggests in this thread. That also gives the other an immediate choice if they want to engage so deeply with you. But you might also expose yourself too much.
Seriously, what are you supposed to say?
“My name is Aaron and I like trains”
Well, then, I’m truly beyond saving because I don’t even like trains. 🫠
I like Turtles
I’m not autistic and I don’t know either. So I became a dad now I can literally talk shit (he has diarrhea 😱) for hours on end.
Did you become a dad so you had more talking points? /s
You joke but it did make my social life a lot easier. You keep meeting other parents (at doctors, community organized activities, for playdates and so on) and instantly have something to talk about. Oh mine has the shits, mine won’t latch, ours started rolling on his belly last week.
Then you start gifting and receiving gifts because yours grew out of his sleeping bag or the inlaws gave something absurd for your situation but someone else might find it useful and you develop actual adult friendships.
I had the exact same experience with becoming a parent! It’s a super easy thing that almost anyone can talk about without being too personal, touchy or deep
Maybe it’s easier for you to tell what you do instead of what you are (or like, or think, or feel …)?
Yes, good point, but I still wish people asked less ambiguous and vague questions. I don’t know, my mind just goes blank for a moment there.
I know this. I’d be like, “oh shit a smalltalker …”
What works for me is to start talking about what hapened to me. Similar to what @branchial@feddit.de suggests in this thread. That also gives the other an immediate choice if they want to engage so deeply with you. But you might also expose yourself too much.