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    I tend say “I mean…” before saying things. No one has ever pointed it out. but I’m very aware of it and catch myself doing it all the time. Sometimes 2-3 times in a discussion.

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    Biting my nails and the skin around my nails. Currently trying to quit again. On day 6.

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      You’re doing great. What helped me quit when I was a teenager was to always know where my nail clippers were, and have fast access to them. So whenever I had an urge due to an uneven nail edge, I’d just smooth it out with clippers or a nail file. Really made it simple to quit.

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      I used to do it, what helped me break it was keeping a rubber band on my wrist and every time id bite, id snap my self with the rubber band, took ~1.5 weeks for me to stop

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      What helped me quit was a manicure. Spending $40+ on my nails helped me not want to bite them. By the time the gel chipped off, I broke the habit, so I didn’t go back. I still pick off hangnails and the uneven structure, but having a file next to my desk at all times helps with that. I also have a cheat nail where I mess it up if I need to.

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        It’s tough for sure. I quit once for a year and a half, but some stressful times got me back into biting. You can quit too!

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    Reading.

    Hear me out! I have always been an avid reader, get very sucked into plots. I got diagnosed with ADHD in June. Since I’ve been medicated I’ve read $15,000 worth of library books. A little of that amount was before June, but most has been since then.

    I will walk around the house making food while reading. If I am doing something that requires my hands then it’s a podcast or audiobook. This all being said a lot has been manga or graphic novels but there have been days when I read 10+ books.

    Probably doesn’t sound like the worst problem but it’s something that has started to impact my life in ways I did not expect.

    Thanks for reading!

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      I haven’t done the math on “value” read, but I do 15-20 hours of audiobook (because 2x speed) on work days. It definitely can make finding new reads a challenge.

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            you’ve ‘spent’ as much on books in five months as i have in, like, twenty years. but i don’t always actually check books out. i often just go there (it’s only a block away), grab a book, find a sofa to sit on, and read it… cover-to-cover, then put it back where i found it.

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              Mmmh that sounds lovely but I unfortunately do not have that luxury as I do not live in the same town as my library.

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          That’s kind of cool. I’d need to combine a lot of different sources to get a number, though. I use all of Libby and Hoopla from my library, a scribd subscription (sorry, everand, I guess now), Audible, and Apple Books to handle my audiobook needs (and more for ebooks, though I have less time for that).

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      You could try set a countdown on your phone to snap you out of it after an hour or so.

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        I have tried several different ways, and I will try the alarm again since you’ve suggested it - thank you by the way - but I often get laser focused in such a way that I don’t hear my partner speaking when he’s beside me on the couch.

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          That’s fair. You could try one of those classic bell-based alarm clocks, that shit will jolt even the most concentrated of people

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            I tried an air raid siren one and it helped a bit.

            But maybe like an actual alarm clock not just an alarm on my phone… Hmmm thanks !

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              Yeah there’s something about phone speakers that just never does the job for me. I dunno, the alarm sounds just lack…presence. I use a bell-based alarm clock to wake me up and when that thing goes off, you’re getting the fuck up no matter how deep a sleep you’re in. Phone alarms? I’ve slept through too many to count.

              Obviously your use case is different, I’m just thinking if it can snap out a deep sleeper like me, it might help break your hyperfocus too.

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      I’ve been sucked into a depression fueled reading hole where I just read and lay in bed for several days. What’s weird though is after a couple of days I start to narrate my dreams and if long enough it begins to make its way into my waking life?

      Ever experienced anything like this?

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          Ah okay, I figured it had to be a situation like that. Although I was hoping you were just rich, lol.

          Sorry to hear that. I hope I didn’t offend you.

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            You didn’t, sorry if it came off that way, it’s my innate passive aggressive Canadianness, comes out sooo hard in text form.

            I’m also sometimes a dick so that doesn’t help either heh !

            I think if I were rich I’d just buy books and then I wouldn’t be rich anymore.

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      I regularly eat right before bed and I don’t have this, in fact if I don’t do it I wake up really hungry. It’s still a bad habit on my part. Maybe something else at work?

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      Sounds awful. Do you know what causes it? Otherwise this might not be in your control. Worth seeing a holistic therapist to find the root cause and hopefully feel better.

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    Biting my nails. Been doing it for as long as I can remember. I think I stopped once but went back to it as soon as I realized I stopped.

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      Oh I can relate with this. I’ve recently managed to stop (hopefully for good) for the silliest of reasons. I want nice long nails.
      I know it sounds silly, but I’ve switched from biting my nails to running my finger tip along one of my nails instead. I admire how nice they feel and it somehow takes the biting impulse away.
      One thing I do need to do is an almost daily filing to keep them completely smooth. I know that I’ll resume biting if I find an irregularity or a jagged edge.

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      I have the same problem, except I’ll sometimes end up chewing them so much that one finger will bleed in-between the finger and nail on the side. In fact, I’m pretty sure I have dried blood under one of my fingernails.

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        I used be a an absolute fiend for biting my nails. What fixed it was buying a little Swiss army knife nail set. It’s got a wee little nail clippers and file. It fulfilled the need for nervous movement.

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        Friend of mine solved this by using a sort of nail polish that tastes super bitter. Got her to keep her fingers out of her mouth.

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          My parents got me one of those when I was a kid. It didn’t help me at all, back then at least :(

          Glad it worked for her though!

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      There is invisible nail polish that works well.

      It makes nails taste horrible, and you will be reminded even if you bite your nails absent-mindedly.

      Should give it a try if you really want to stop.

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    Forgetting time, space and everything else while I write code.

    Not that I’ve almost set the kitchen on fire before by forgetting the pizza in the oven while writing “this one little function”.

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      I’m curious as to what you program/work in. I’m the same way when I’m invested into a configuration/template (I work with the cloud)

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        It doesn’t really matter for me what it is, as long as it is a project I’m working on xD

        I think at the time I was migrating a discord bot I to use PostgreSQL - or setting up auto backups for it.

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      When I’m baking bread, I have to set timers for myself to make sure it doesn’t overproof or burn in the oven.

      The feeling is wild. I sit down, set a timer for 1-2 hrs, start work, and with the snap of a finger I’m torn out of my zone by my alarm sound.

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    I tend to start sentences with “So,” in emails and that just doesn’t seem professional.