I understand a fantasy and a one time thing like tipping on a guys night out at a strip club, but some of these guys think they are in a relationship with someone they will never meet and don’t even know their real name or life details.

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    I’ve thought about it. It’s tempting because it’s simple. When you spend time and energy on your wife and she doesn’t give anything back, it’s very lonely. A cam girl is simple. Money goes in, attention comes out. It’s not exactly what I want but it’s got a higher success rate that what I’ve got now.

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    It’s always been this way and yes they do.

    In the 50’s, women artists were literally expected to hide their partners. Dolly Parton famously got married against the wishes of her managers/producers, because she was a bad bitch who wasn’t going to be pushed around and denied her own life. She was a rarity at the time.

    The number of OF models who have boyfriends who never appear on cam is high. This isn’t new for women in porn, this has pretty much how it has always operated. Men don’t like their fantasy being destroyed by pesky details like a boyfriend.

    In Kpop its definitely still a thing, and it seems like the young male fans flip the fuck out when they find out one of the women they’re idolizing already has a boyfriend.

    It’s capitalism, baby. It teaches young men that human relationships are a financial transaction and nothing more. They absolutely do think the money they spend means something, even if they aren’t an outright Incel.

    Many of them will end up furious eventually, once it becomes clear they will never make it anywhere with this woman.

    *shrugs

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      It’s capitalism, baby. It teaches young men that human relationships are a financial transaction and nothing more.

      I really notice that idea in movies from the 80s and 90s. The love interest leaps into the dude’s arms at the end. They didn’t know each other an hour ago, but she’s the reward for the hero’s success.

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      There is nothing positive that comes from the existence of simps.

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    Quite a lot of the people that donate money to camgirls/OnlyFans models have learning difficulties. My special needs brother-in-law gets disability allowance from the state every month because he is too disabled to work and still managed to rack up a 4000 pound debt giving money to these “content creators”.

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      I think the concept you meant here is being neurodivergent. Learning disabilities are a related concept, but for example I doubt someone being dyslexic would make them any more likely to have a problem with this sort of thing. You’re talking about people with things like Autism, ADHD, etc. right?

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        I’ve heard “learning difficulties” used by Brits the way “intellectual disabilities” is used in the US, Down Syndrome for example. It’s not equivalent to “Learning disabilities” in the US, like ADHD or dyslexia.

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      Your BIL likely has an intellectual impairment to get those benefits. Learning disabilities are not typically severe enough to disable a person from working. An intellectual impairment is a much broader term that essentially indicates the person’s IQ is significantly lower than average, and this very often is disabling enough to prevent a person from working.

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    I’ve seen folks do the same with people who stream games.

    An acknowledgement of your own existence is a powerful thing. I get it.

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    They might think that, and they might be right. There have been multiple accounts from sec workers who feel friendly to their clients.

    Think about any place you go regularly: you might have a friendly relationship with the cashier/waiter/barista/bartender/whoever. That relationship only exists because you are a customer, but that doesn’t mean they don’t feel genuinely friendly to you. When I’ve worked in service jobs, there were plenty of people I only interacted with because I had to, and there were a handful of people I genuinely liked seeing. Just because someone is selling images of their naked body and a sense of intimacy doesn’t mean the dynamic is fundamentally different on their side. For the clients, there is often a misunderstanding of what the boundaries are, which is why many sex workers are extremely direct with people.

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    I’m sure many have that fantasy. I’d guess that others understand that it’s just a tease, and have enough disposable income that they don’t care. Same as strip clubs.

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    I don’t think the type of person that gives cam girls tons of money is self-aware enough to realize the model doesn’t care if they are still breathing 10 minutes after the money hits their account.

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    Grant Amato shot his father, mother, and brother Cody in the head at their home in Seminole County, Florida, while attempting to stage it as a murder-suicide committed by his brother before fleeing the residence.

    Before the murders occurred, Amato had developed an infatuation with Bulgarian model and cam girl Silviya Ventsislavova (Bulgarian: Силвия Венциславова), who went by the alias “Silvie” online. Amato used some of his father’s and brother’s money that amounted to $200,000 to pay to attend her webcam sessions.

    I’m not sure how that counts but it does add texture to the conversation.

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    I once signed up to an only fans I fancied just to see what the hubbub was all about. I paid my monthly fee which was like 10 or 11 bucks. I had access to her whole catalog including live shows. I managed to catch one of those live shows and by the end of it, only about 30 minutes long, she managed to get 800 bucks in tips.

    People were tipping her 200 300 hundreds bucks at a time as she diddled her self with various implements.

    Insanity. There is literally limitless free porn in this genre out there. There is absolutely no reason to pay for any of this.

    And yet… There you have it. This woman made close to 1000 dollars for doing something she’d probably do anyway.

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    Parasocial relationships works both ways. Of course you have exceptions and it depend on the individual, but they usually like each others.

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    I assume it’s a form of the buzzword/phrase “parasocial relationship” and some if not most do actually think they have a chance. No real idea, but you can definitely see it even on twitch with female viewers and their rich viewers throwing money at them

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    I like spending my money on beautiful women. Personally this is something I like to do in person, for someone I actually know. I guess I can kind of see how somebody might fulfil a similar drive virtually, but it seems very odd to me.

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    A lot of it is buying the illusion/experience. They are helping that girl get back into veterinary school or are virtually rubbing her clit by making panties vibrate or whatever.

    Also, it is generally not the same whale every night. Sometimes it is, but most models have a set of regulars.

    And the other aspect to remember is the good old audience plant. Think of it like starting a hype train on twitch or getting the meter most of the way to the exposed titties goal or whatever. The idea is a friend or site employee uses cheap tokens to encourage others to use real ones.