• cabbagee
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    1 year ago

    Thanks for the suggestion. I don’t think I could get him to take part in any kind of therapy but it sounds interesting for myself. Do you have any favorite resources?

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      1 year ago

      If he ever starts rubbing up against you or trying to swoop back in, politely refer him to the book (there’s audible if he likes that) and let him know its an important part of you getting yourself better and understanding people more and maybe if he reads it some day and put in the effort (theres exercises aha)…

      We’ll see. (Probably not but telling him to surprise you and put it in his possession so he can’t pass it off to someone else (i get the sense he would be self-conscious of the idea of people noticing him with it…All these games we play, sigh

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        1 year ago

        The important thing for him to know is you’re not his property and you have your own shit. You can leave any time he starts talkin’ stupid, I use it all the time. Make sure all your shit is 2FA bro too. The only way to engage with a narcississt at all is to take away all the toys/weapons, make the blend in, and remind them you retain all call logs indefinitely.