• Neato
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    1118 months ago

    Well, femboys are men who dress feminine. Does that mean you’re attracted to them being feminine? Or are you attracted because they’re men? Because you can certainly be attracted to women with penises (trans women) and be straight and be attracted to feminine-presenting men and be gay.

    Personally I think you should just embrace whatever you find attractive and not worry about the sexuality labels. But I know not every society allows just permissive views.

    • @azertyfun@sh.itjust.works
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      158 months ago

      Does that mean you’re attracted to them being feminine? Or are you attracted because they’re men?

      yes

      More seriously, in my experience androgynous/GNC features are widely considered attractive in bisexual circles because they combine attractive features of multiple genders, which is at least twice as many attractive things.

      However someone discovering themselves as “not straight” might not have enough understanding of the relationship between gender and attraction to answer your question.
      In my case as I hit puberty I realized I was attracted to girls, so I thought “ok I’m straight”. Years and many ignored signs later I realized I found feminine men hot, so I thought “I’m straight so it’s because they’re feminine”. Then like a year or two later I caught myself thinking a definitely-not-effeminate actor was hot (not for the first time) and the other shoe dropped. Yeah, I’m a dumbass, but point is that it’s much easier to put a label on oneself and go from there, than to deconstruct something as complex as gender and attraction.

      Thank you for coming to my ted talk.

    • @Pregnenolone@lemmy.world
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      68 months ago

      It’s insane and disappointing how many people think like that today. People who can’t seperate fantasy and reality and are so insecure about other people’s thought that they want to dictate them.

    • @cobra89@beehaw.org
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      68 months ago

      Unless your SO is Scarlett Johansson, but I’m pretty sure even Colin Jost jerks it to someone else now and then.

  • Rozaŭtuno
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    418 months ago

    ONLY 4 times a week?

    Those are rookie numbers, git gud noob.

    • qyron
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      118 months ago

      What?!

      • @Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee
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        138 months ago

        All the imagined horrors of fiction cannot compare to the darkness that dwells within the hearts of men. Go take a look at motherless dot com if you don’t believe me (I’m not linking that shit here you’ll have to do some typing).

        • qyron
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          78 months ago

          All the imagined horrors of fiction cannot compare to the darkness that dwells within the hearts of men.

          You had me with this part.

          Go take a look at motherless dot com if you don’t believe me (I’m not linking that shit here you’ll have to do some typing).

          How low does that score in the internet?

          • @Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee
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            38 months ago

            If you can think of something depraved, someone has filmed it and uploaded it to motherless. So of you’re into self mutilation, scat, lesbian vomit drinkers, and stuff like that, motherless is for you.

          • @Krauerking@lemy.lol
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            58 months ago

            Oh… Motherless… Yeah I went to that site as a kid…

            Don’t. Just don’t think about it ever again. Like trust me. Don’t.

              • @Krauerking@lemy.lol
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                68 months ago

                No, seriously though you don’t want to know. I know it’s hard to say that without it sounding more appealing but like… I can tell you exactly the day, the chair I sat in and the images that are burned into my brain from the afternoon I decided to look up that site.

                It’s ok to stay oblivious. This one is better not even given thought towards.

                If you must know something, It’s a social media site, it allows image and video and text sharing. It’s all… Truly awful.

          • @Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee
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            18 months ago

            Just think of the weirdest thing you could potentially fap to /get arrested for and there’s probably a video of it on motherless.

  • @kingcarlosxiii@lemmy.ca
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    338 months ago

    Wait…ya’ll thinking of your Spouses/Significant Others? Honest question. The only time I ever thought about my spouse while masturbating was before they were my spouse.

  • Franzia
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    298 months ago

    Damn. Outrageous! What is society doing to our men? Making them horny over feminine looking men? 🤔 what will the l2sgbtqia do to us next? Make me feminine?/ 🥺 please