I recently realised that I have an aromantic identity (not sure of the micro label and not worrying about it).

This being a couple years after realising I am Demi-greysexual.

For me it was when I figured out that the absence of romantic attraction was roughly similar to my sexual attraction. Which is to say not much and only at certain times.

It took a fair bit of time to come to the realisation and a another chunk of time to actually process it and be comfortable with the idea. Now that I know about this part of me I feel more relaxed about my life.

Not sure if this helps, but if you have specific questions, I’ll help as much as I can.