I primarily ask this, because for a large part of my life, I have found it hard to build meaningful friendships with neurotypicals. I don’t know any autistic people in real life, but wonder if it would be easier for me to build friendships with them?

Or maybe this has more to do with general struggles of being autistic, rather than how alike I am to others. However, I always find neurotypicals don’t really go deep in conversation, but they enjoy small talk. Yet, I’m the complete opposite.

What has been your experience?

  • webghost0101
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    1 year ago

    It has gotten to a point that if we only just met, but instantly connect and get into an interesting conversation then i can just assume your neurodivergent. There has yet to be a case where i am proven wrong. I often just plain tell them “btw do you know what neurodivergent is after 2-3 encounters.

    Some other people i still cant communicate properly with every years of working with them. There usually the most normal seeming people around.

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      1 year ago

      Generally agree. My wife is neurotypical, but she spends more time than I do reading how to communicate with and help me. Otherwise, I tend to find most neurotypical people too easily made uncomfortable by me just existing. I have had people walk up to me on the street at an event and tell me I was creeping their friends out because of my half-smile. I was totally taken aback. I was literally just sitting on the curb in Savannah listening to music, not even paying attention to the people.