Part of the problem (regarding the high rate of child sex abuse in religious ministries) is the fundamental notion of youth pastors and youth ministries, in which a given church seeks out adults who are down with the teens but are also willing to engage them with the ulterior motive of selling them faith in the ministry and in their denominational brand of religion.
So there’s already an intrinsic manipulative element to the relationship between a youth pastor and their flock, It becomes really easy for a given relationship that involves emotional intimacy (say engaging with a teen going through common teenage angst and drama) transitioning unintentionally romantic and sexual intimacy. (And then there’s those YPs for whom the intent to smash was there all along.)
Psychologists, Teachers and counselors go though training to recognize the dysfunction of banging their students and clients, how there’s a heirarchical relationship that is nearly impossible to navigate and so it invariably leads to harm. Its why all these fields are held to ethical standards. Youth pastors are held to no standards, and typically are appointed from volunteers. (Note also it’s a standard that is routinely broken by professionals despite their training. News about teachers getting caught doing their students is not uncommon, and one study showed a third of psychotheraposts have affairs with clients. Humans are a pervy, randy species. )
So the whole idea of adults hanging with, befriending and counseling teens in order to steer them to Jesus creates an intrinsically high risk social situation in which youth pastors will prey on their marks. Even if that wasn’t their original intent,
B Aminor
B/Am?
I hate bar chords. My dumb fingers never hold the strings in just the right way to not cause buzzing. Been trying to get them right for 20 years on/off. Fuck 'em. Power chords it is.
I’m terrible at the but I’ve found that not avoiding them has helped me improve. I see it as a percentage game, each time we might hit it right 10% of the time, the maybe 15% a few months later perhaps 35% etc. If I can nail a Bm or even that nasty bastard F 60% of the time I’m going to count that as a win. Main thing is if I can get a Bm down I can play almost every Cure song because for some reason Robert Smith can’t write a song without one in it!
I’ve found it’s all about the pressure and maximising it, so using your arm strength to pull back against the fret board instead of finger strength. The “AHA” moment was seeing a YouTube guitarist playing a Minor chord and using their middle AND index finger to barre it, reinforcing the index with the middle.
It’s less finger strength and more my fingers are weird. I got meat paws and it still doesn’t work trying multiple techniques.
Think it comes down to my knuckle on my pointer finger being a good bit larger than the rest of my finger so there’s gaps when I attempt to lay it flat across the fretboard.At this point though I just kind of play what feels good and don’t really worry about learning songs anymore. So I typically don’t use them in the style I’ve been playing. Like a weird mix of numetal/progmetal.
Am I good? Not really, but it’s still fun to find a nice groovy riff and jam to it.
Priests never have a problem fingering A Minor
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“In my new Chris Hansen brand chairs! A seat worthy of being the last comfortable thing you ever sit on!”
Or use a tritone. It worked centuries ago.
G sus!
m/Fatherjokes
When I play it the positions of my pinkie and ring finger are reversed compared to the image, same with all Am shapes
Am I doing it wrong
If it works for you you’re not doing it wrong but I’d say that’s not the conventional way!
