I’m a bit lost here, to be fair. I went full no contact with my family back when I was 16. Took a hike, even across countries. So, apparently what happened, was my ex brother in law not keeping his mouth shut and sharing my number with my family. I still can’t make heads or tails of it. But now my dad wants to be real chummy and friendy with me? Fuck that, honestly. I’m not super mad at him, more at the rest of my family, but it seriously hurts right now. What am I supposed to do? I’m at a loss here. Haven’t really talked to the person for over 21 years.
When I split from my ex, who had become abusive, my second to oldest daughter said she wouldn’t even go to his funeral if he died.
It’s been ten years, and in the intervening time, he’s quit drinking and become more reasonable, and she will talk to him occasionally.
So my question is, do you have reason to think he’s changed? If not, I’d say change your phone number or block him. But people can change. If you think he’s changed, then yes it might be good for both of you.