• Aksamit@slrpnk.net
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    9 days ago

    pork

    🤢🤮

    Why do some men think that is an acceptable term for sex? It’s so degrading. Or is that the point, to compare sex to fucking a piece of meat?

    • Echo Dot@feddit.uk
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      9 days ago

      That was you’ll take away from that comment?

      They make a fairly good point that you seem to be ignoring

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      9 days ago

      Pick whatever synonym you prefer and read it in place of.

      I personally dislike “fuck”; sounds purely physical and unemotional, aggressive, quasi mechanical, like scratching an itch.

      While “porking” sounds silly, goofy, almost nonsensical. Something two people attracted and trusting of each other would blurt out as teasing.

      The first carries the same weight you vocalized on your reply for me, only that I don’t apply that disgust solely towards men. I can tolerate a “fuck” as an expletive towards anything in a figurative way (fuck the traffic, the car, the coffee being too hot, the iced tea too sweet, the dog peeing on the sofa, the cat throwing up on a shoe) but I sincerely dislike saying or hearing said “fuck” in the literal sense. It’s crude, rude, disrespectful towards the other.

      • Aksamit@slrpnk.net
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        9 days ago

        Do women who you ‘pork’ like you refering to fucking thrm with that term?

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          9 days ago

          I only use euphemistics if there is an established relation and consent to it.

          At some point in my life I was with someone that had a kink for being called by terms I consider demeaning towards any human being, so I openly refused to do so and explained why I did it. The relationship ended shortly after.

          Because I see sex in a couple dynamic as a corner stone for a healthy relationship, I always strived to be open about talking regarding limits, dos and donts. I like enjoying myself before, while and after being with my partner and making sure my partner does as well and laughing and goofing around is an integral part of it.

          So, if there is mutual trust to throw around some silly dirty talk, yes, to answer your question, I would.

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            8 days ago

            I just want you to know that your comment wasn’t blatantly disrespected at least by this internet stranger.

            It’s a thoughtful reply to some asshat that was asking you questions in bad faith, he was not open to a different point of view from the outset.

            And also that’s pretty awesome stance to take. I wish more folks were this mature about their relationships

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              8 days ago

              If somehow letting out all of that vitriole helped that person in feeling relieved and with their views asserted, good for them.

              I sleep at ease with my conscience, as I didn’t insulted them, regardless of what they felt or thought.

              Thank you for your kind words.

          • Aksamit@slrpnk.net
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            9 days ago

            How is ‘pork’ an acceptable term for sex though? The euphemism you are implying with it is literally to ‘fuck a piece of meat’. And pig meat at that.

            This is not a cute or light hearted thing to imply when talking about sex. ‘Fuck’ is far less offensive a term for sex than ‘pork’.

            But sure, whatever, if the women you fuck do want sex with them to be spoken about like you’re sticking your dick in pieces of pig meat, then by all means.

            Just understand that it is disgusting and degrading to speak about sex this way publicly and you should really be more called out on it.

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              9 days ago

              After that outing, that I sincerely hope has made your peace, I consider myself as such.

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              9 days ago

              "This is how I see how. so it is how it is for everyone.

              So it is written, so shall it be"

              Ramses, or Aksamit?