Example, Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

I hate this for the obvious reasons but it’s especially annoying to me because my wife didn’t take my surname!

  • Kecessa@sh.itjust.works
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    29 days ago

    Name changing upon getting married was made illegal in 1981 around here, my girlfriend gets pissed when people make the mistake and use my family name to refer to her!

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      29 days ago

      What a weird way to take away people’s freedoms.

      I didn’t even really want my wife to take my last name, but she insisted because she’s estranged from her parents.

      I can’t imagine a bureaucrat telling her she can’t change her name because they know better than she does.

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        29 days ago

        Yeah I don’t think women see it as a freedom issue as much as feeling obligated to change their name does.

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          29 days ago

          I told her I didn’t think she should change her name. She told me she really wanted to.

          You should have the right to tell her no?

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            28 days ago

            She could have done it through the regular name changing process like anyone else (which involves fees and a lot of paperwork to make sure all records are updated everywhere).

            It’s just not legal to do it as part of the wedding process like it’s done in other provinces.

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              28 days ago

              Oh, so it’s one of those cases of the Quebecois trying to make life shitty for Anglophone culture.

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                28 days ago

                Eh… What? You realize French Canadians outside Quebec still do it and French Quebecois did it before the law changed?

                Keep your racism to yourself, thanks.

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      29 days ago

      Illegal, or do you just have to go through the same process as any other name change?

      Personally I ditched my problematic last name gladly, but my MIL kept hers

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        29 days ago

        Illegal to do as part of the wedding process but if you want to do it just like anyone else can then no problem