• EdanGrey@sh.itjust.works
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    Mate, please go outside and touch grass. Your post history is concerning and honestly I’m wondering if you’ve ever actually spoken to a woman.

  • DasFaultier@sh.itjust.works
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    If my wife didn’t have an abortion, she would be fucking dead by now, so how would that even be a consideration that a sane person would make? Does an abortion make a woman less of a person? No. But does it make her less loveable? Also no. But is it a red flag that she had sex before, maybe even with a different person? No, and fuck patriarchy.

    • BigDotNet@lemmy.mlOP
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      I think my question it’s poorly framed, I was talking more about women who use abortion like a contraceptive, some of them with more than 1 abortion.

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        No one uses it as a contraceptive. Look up how the procedure takes place, the impacts on their lives and even just the cost. No one would put themselves through that by choice over actual alternatives. It’s just crazies spewing that filth tryjng to get people to look down on women and shame them when they are vulnerable.

        Anyone who spews such nonsense is just vile. If someone chose to use it would mean there was a failure in parents, failure in educators, abusers in their life, and likely they need help. Not someone to put them down.

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          I believe the problem it’s people didn’t talk enough about this stuff, It isn’t something people usually talk about, even women.

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    Honestly I’d be more relieved that there isn’t an ex in the picture she’s tied to via the kid!

  • hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world
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    No.

    I guess the only way it factors in is if I knew she has more experience / is in a different stage of life with relationships.

    But that’s got to do with age and maturity more than anything.

  • TheIvoryTower@lemmy.world
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    No.

    I mean, I would take it as a sign she is responsible about not bringing unwanted children into the world. Green flag if anything.

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      Seconded, and 100% agree. Same thing with previous marriages. This alone shouldn’t be a show stopper.

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      Would you even consider it better to have a relationship with someone who has had an abortion than with someone who hasn’t, or is it totally irrelevant?

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        It’s irrelevant. Why are you asking? This is a very strange line of questioning.

        EDIT: Oh god your post history is horrifying. You need to just get out and speak to real people and just develop some social skills and a general understanding of society.

        • BigDotNet@lemmy.mlOP
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          Nothing specific, just wondering what’s the opinion on this of Lemmy’s people.

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        9 hours ago

        What a weird question to pose.

        Women are real people, not RPG characters to optimize for maximum compatibility.

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    I consider abortion the same as murder with only two exceptions: her life was in danger or she got raped.

    So if she had an abortion and it wasn’t because of her life being in danger or because of rape, then no, I wouldn’t want to be with such a woman.

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      Pretty reasonable in my opinion, there are people who it’s against even when it’s rape but definitely I’m agree with it only when sex was non-consensual because at this point of society decostruction(destruction?) I can’t imagine how much rape allegations are false.

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    Nope, it would have no bearing on my decision-making process. Not my body, not my womb, not my fucking business.