• elucubra
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    2 months ago

    I’m intact. In my country it’s only done for medical reasons.

    My friend had circumcision performed in his 20’s because he was having trouble during sex. He later confided to close friends that it was shit; Initially he was constantly uncomfortable because of the friction of his glans with underwear, until it desensitized!! and he had to lubricate to masturbate, among other things. He also said that sex was plain and simple worse, that he had lost a lot of sensitivity, and that it took him way longer.

    Those who are circumcised who tell themselves they fine are deluding themselves.

    That the US allows ritual infant genital mutilation is plain and simple barbaric.

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      2 months ago

      Also consider that if it’s all you ever knew, you might just be trying to make the most of it, without defending the practice.

      Sex feels great to me, I wish I was uncut, and I would never circumcise my son if I had one.

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      Those who are circumcised who tell themselves they fine are deluding themselves.

      utterly pointless insulting victims like this. stop.

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        Fuck no, cause those same shitheads are totally fine with the continuation of the practice. They try to minimize the trauma to feed their own insecurities.

        People who downplay circumcision can get fucked.

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          If everyone got a lucky number tattoo before they could even talk, something nonconsensual and superstitious, some people would end up liking their tattoo or not caring either way. Such a person can still find the practice wrong, horrific even. If you have personal trauma it does not justify assuming people’s positions and calling them shitheads.

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          Circumcision without consent and without a real medical necessarily is barbaric and needs to end.

          My point is that I can’t take it back, so I choose to enjoy what I have instead of lamenting what I should have. Maybe if foregen succeeds I’ll consider that tho

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        2 months ago

        As a victim, I wish people had insulted previous victims so that they wouldn’t pass on their trauma to the next generation.

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        I’m not insulting anybody, I’m simply pointing out that to pretend everything is fine, is looking the other way.

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            I’m empathetic about your situation. I think it’s the best to make the best out of it. I simply say that saying all is OK makes it sound as it’s a trivial matter, and helps the practice keep being carried out.

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      I was circumcised in my late teen’s and had none of those issues or noticed any difference in sex other than it didn’t hurt like hell when I would cum anymore. I was left with a scar on the head and shaft from where they had to cut the string thing that connected the two. It might be because the head of my dick was already fully exposed when flaccid and uncomfortably so when erect. I still remember the first stringy bit tearing the first time I had sex, hurt like a mf. After a few more times I got the courage to ask my mom, who I had a poor relationship with, to take me to the doctor which resulted in them performing the operation to remove the much thicker, comparably, stringy bit that connected the head to the shaft.

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          2 months ago

          My mother said I was not circumcised as a baby but it’s nothing I talked to her about again and I suppose she could have been lying.

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            2 months ago

            If your glans was permanently exposed it seems like you were circumcised ( a botched circumcision by the looks of it).