I also had a rule that I would live with them for at least 1 year before committing to a proposal. I had to know in advance that I could live with this person, at their best AND worst every single day, before I would even consider marriage.

Blows me away people get married before living with them. I never experienced that in reality, but the dating shows drive me crazy.

My wife and I moved in during the dating stages, and we drove each other crazy. After a few years, we chilled out and learned better habits from each other, then after a long time… We popped the question.

Same but with check-ins every 15-30 minutes. Usually a “whatcha doin” or a surprise hug or kiss.

I told some of my single friends I needed some alone time, and my wife joined me. And they said, “I thought you needed alone time”.

And I didn’t know how to explain that to them.

Same!

One of my fears dating was that id run out of social energy and she’d realize i was really boring. A few years in our relationship, I told her. And she said she thought SHE was boring me, because she never had anything to really say.

Now it’s been more than a decade and there’s no social battery being drained with her, and vice versa. We charge each other up!

Same. I read these and it gets so surreal, I need to share it.

Dunno if it’s like kids eating tidepods where a few did it and now it’s a national meme, or if this is just the deep basements of Tumblr.

If you’re looking for excuses to go out that isn’t drinking at bars - Look into book clubs, silent book readings, art classes and board game meetups…

Most of my friends are not alcoholics, where I like drinking but hate the noise of bars. All of those events cater to all types!

I was reading about how creepy some patients would be with female nurses and ask for help holding up their penis to pee or other gross shit.

And the solution was to either arrange the pervert to get more intrusive tests since they obviously can’t hold their own dick, or send in the Murses.

What I’m saying is you call staff, be ready if a sweaty beast of a person who smells of stale corn chips is ready to help you get off.

Yeah but then zero of many things.

I may do double dishes. But zero baking and I’m rewarded with cookies randomly.

I may do double cleaning. But zero when it comes to buying gifts and cards for people, because she loves doing that. And I get to reap all the benefits.

I definitely think there’s a degree of maturity where a person separates potential sex partners and potential friends. Or Maybe it’s just me and I assume everyone wants to horndog with everyone. Which is okay, just keep it in your pants.

I’ve been married for 15 years now and I usually deflect any forms of attraction (men and women). I’ve had a few times where they confess, and I’ve always just kind of shrugged and let them know I’m not the person they built up in their heads. if they get creepy, quietly move on. Most don’t and we’re lifelong friends.

Again, maturity plays a huge part. And if they’re not mature enough to see you as a person, whoever you are… That’s on them. It may feel lonely on your part, but honestly, the drama with people who have obsessive crushing is way honestly more annoying.

I was at a party and talked about how Burger King has veggie patties.

And this rando party goer interrupts to talk about how good meat is and can’t imagine being submissive to vegetarians.

And I loudly said that it’s what the doctor recommended to help with my cancer and the dude panicked and ran away.

It wasn’t true but fuck that guy traumatize them back.

Hey some people pay good money for that kind of service

Stupid shit like this is why I strongly believe in defunding states.

And to folks going, “Well now that Trump is the federal government, what if he defunds your state?”

Bro, my blue liberal state MAKES money to fund backwater dumb fucks like Alabama/Mississippi.

It was the fork of Poob after the original devs went crazy about sea creatures owning the government

I have kids. I wouldn’t trade them for the world. 90% of the time, they’re fine. The other 10%, I’m so angry but I can’t be angry for long because they didn’t do anything I didn’t do as a kid.

Hard to say if I regret anything. Too young and I would have struggled financially, nor was I mature enough. Too old and I would have struggled to keep up.

You’re going to have a divide here. There’s people who REALLY hate the idea of kids. Then you have the crazy-ass breeder religious folks who are so judgemental. Asking for validation from the internet about kids is silly imo. Everyone has a motive.

Rather than ask friends, family, strangers on the internet… Treat it like a lifestyle change. Read books about parenting. If that doesn’t align with you, then you have your answer.

and many people have a problem with lemmy.world and how they moderate.

Yep

For a while, my posts on political memes was getting removed. And every time I try to post on lemmy.world, I get an error. Not certain if I’m banned or not but I have no issues but all my modlog reported issues all come from lemmy.world.

I need one of those “where do you draw the line” memes but with the balls and penis

(me eyeing some Elden Ring beasts all hornily)

"Oh my bad, my bad …

B for bomb. T for twin towers. N for nine eleven was a inside job."