• nomous@lemmy.world
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    22 days ago

    You’re free to feel however you want. I live in a reasonably sized city with a thriving arts and music scene, I’d like be able to go out for meals and drinks and go to various events and have conversations and interactions with people without their first impression of me being “ohfuck ohfuck ohfuck” as they struggle to read my hat as I walk by.

    That they’d steer clear of a MAGAt doesn’t paint them as a mouth breather in this day and age; it makes them seem wary and like someone I’d agree with.

    • Coreidan@lemmy.world
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      22 days ago

      Got it. So the opinion of complete strangers means a lot to you. Especially people that jump to huge assumptions based on the color of your hat. What ever makes you happy I guess.

      • smallpatatas@lemm.ee
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        22 days ago

        Like it or not, things sometimes become symbols for other things, and especially given the political climate, it makes sense for people to get their guard up if they see something that looks like one of those symbols that represents, say, an utterly toxic ideology.

        Not wanting to make others navigate that stuff unnecessarily is a sign of thoughtfulness and pro-social tendencies, not weakness.

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        22 days ago

        The opinion of strangers should have some impact on you. Too much and too little both lead to bad places. A little consideration for the opinions of strangers encourages pro social behavior. And yes choosing to avoid accidentally signaling something is part of pro social behavior.

        Personally I like strangers to be less on guard with me, it makes my day a little bit more pleasant. I’m not going to judge people for choosing otherwise with something like a hat that happens to be red, but it’s not a choice I’d personally make

        • Coreidan@lemmy.world
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          21 days ago

          Sorry bro but if you jump to conclusions based off the color of my hat without even seeing what’s on the hat then you are the asshole.

          I really don’t think I need to interact with an asshole. You did me a favor by avoiding me.