• TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    Normalize sleeping in different beds. Doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. Just sleep different.

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      3 months ago

      I think it is more common than people realize. If the house has a spare bedroom and the couple is a bit older, there’s a pretty good chance they sleep separately at least some of the time. I think movies and shows give people unrealistic ideas about a lot of stuff, including this notion that couples must always sleep together or “something is wrong”.

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        3 months ago

        Funny reading this because there was a time TV wouldn’t dare show a couple in the same bed. Always had single beds separated by a night stand.

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      3 months ago

      I come from a family of very active sleepers. Spouses quickly understand how sleeping in different beds can be a good thing. The love is still there, but so is a good night’s rest.

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      3 months ago

      It could be the aro in me talking, but I don’t really understand how people can get good sleep in the same room as one another, let alone the same bed. Having someone within the immediate vicinity, even an extremely liked and trusted person, seems like it would be a distraction at best and at worst cause anxiety over if I was making it harder for them to sleep

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        3 months ago

        I sleep better next to someone I love and trust because of what I assume are primitive monkey brain reasons.

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          Woah, woah, woah! My great-great-great-great 100 ancestor was a monkey! Primitive is such an offensive word

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        3 months ago

        Id say as someone who enjoys sleeping in the same bed (often with people who i am in a non-sexual relationship with and sometimes in a bed not designed for two people) it has kinda the same effect that cuddling with a person(sometimes it is just that) for a very long time so it just feels nice and has you rested in a completely different way. I do agree that the sleep quality often suffers a bit so i wouldn’t likely want to sleep like that every night.

        It is kinda how many mammals have evolved to sleep, ever seen cats sleep in a big ball in weird positions over eachother?

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      3 months ago

      I love sleeping with my partners but now I’m old and need a CPAP so I can’t see myself doing it too much in the future 😣