Every time I go outside to my yard, my elderly neighbor comes out and tries to talk with me. Every. Single. Time. Without fail. I go out to relax and do gardening and yard work, and his presence makes me increasingly anxious & leaves me feeling particularly uncomfortable/unsafe.

He is dealing with dementia, and has become increasingly vulgar and outspoken, and even made some vastly inappropriate remarks about his wife & my other neighbor while my child was right there.

His wife is tired. I know this. Christ, I would be, too. He was kind of insufferable even before the dementia got bad (think him talking about his shitty political views), but, god… I am so tired of babysitting him while I try to unwind in my own yard. He’ll talk over the fence or simply waltz past it and follow me around while I try to do stuff or as I’m trying to talk to my kid.

One thing I know is this: do not piss off your neighbors, because, chances are, you will probably be living next to them for a looooong time.

What can I do? I just want peace without feeling like I’m being accosted.

  • SharkEatingBreakfastOPEnglish
    10·
    5 months ago

    That sounds practical! Did the advice come from someone with personal experience with folks who have/had dementia?

    • ShareMySims@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      9·
      5 months ago

      No idea where this person got this advice but it sounds spot on. A close relative of mine works with dementia patients, and I know from them that confusion and frustration are the main emotions the patients are experiencing.

      I completely get where you’re coming from and wanting it to stop is fair enough, but also keep in mind it’s almost certain there is no malice there, or even understanding, just helplessness.

      I don’t know where you are, but it might be worth seeing if there are any local organisations that support people with dementia and their families, and putting them in touch with the wife, sounds like they could both use a significant amount of help.