I’m trying to never go back to the other place, but the thing I miss is that there was always a lively conversation going on somewhere. On lemmy, it seems people don’t want to just have a conversation-it’s either serious or techy- I’m looking for light conversations?

Does this happen anywhere on lemmy where responses to your comments come sooner than a day, and people are just sort of in the ‘lobby’ chatting?

    • toasteranimation@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      1 year ago

      Omg I’ve never tried this

      Edit - appreciate the extra info. I had been wondering if voting affected hot or if it was just comments

  • bemenaker@lemmy.world
    7·
    1 year ago

    I’m thinking that has to do with the volume of users. Lemmy is still a fraction of the user base, but it’s growing. What do you think?

    • Mindlight@lemmy.world
      5·
      1 year ago

      Yup. I think we’ll just have to a) wait until other people arrive and b) stop pushing subjects such as “how much do you hate Reddit”, “Reddit have big problems now because…”, “Spaz is an a-hole”

      Either Lemmy is a sustainable ecosystem (posts causing discussion which then causes more posts) or Lemmy exists only until Reddit is good again.

      I’m here because I believe that Lemmy is big enough to stand on its own feet.

    • toasteranimation@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      1 year ago

      That’s the obvious answer, but I think how others have said the early crowd is techy here, so maybe a lot of introverts until the crowd diversifies?? Just a guess, but I really try to discuss stuff but get a lot of meh responses

      • bemenaker@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        Well, early adopters of tech are always the techies, sure you know that. Lemmy has already come a alont way in usability since I started in mid June. As mobile.apps.progress rapidly and the backend stabilizes and adds features, I think it will only grow. I have seen some great discussions on here, without the vitrol you got on Reddit when. You were wrong. I had one yesterday or the day before when it was pointed out to my I had a misunderstanding of a political theory. It was actually a pleasant experience.

        Keep up the casuals, and help this thing grow.

        • toasteranimation@lemmy.worldOP
          1·
          1 year ago

          I’ve been trying to focus on inspiring civilized conversations, while occasionally challenging an idea if I have a differing point of view, but only when saying so adds something to the conversation. I was guilty of getting in some spats on Reddit, but usually with trolls who were asking for it-kind of irresistible sometimes over there. I too have been educated by some very patient people here on lemmy when I came over clueless about it and activitypub in general. I’ve had some great in-depth conversations, just looking for the casual lobby where I could do stuff like help newbs (I like to share what I learn) that sort of thing

  • elephantium@lemmy.world
    6·
    1 year ago

    Well, for light conversation…

    My buddy got married today. I’ve known him since high school – we’ve both been married and divorced since then, but we still hang out occasionally.

    They had a dry wedding at his (now their) church, which was apparently where they had their second date. They’re both super religious, so they match pretty well on that front, at least.

    • toasteranimation@lemmy.worldOP
      5·
      1 year ago

      Congratulations to your buddy! I went to a dry wedding at a church once. The groom panicked and sent me out for liquor with the best man, so there we were in a church bathroom, 4 guys in their 30s, doing shots with a lookout at the door.

      I sincerely wish them a lifetime of happiness

      • elephantium@lemmy.world
        3·
        1 year ago

        Yeah, I hope so. He’s had a rough time of it lately, so it’s nice to see things looking up for him.

        Thanks for the well-wishes :D

        My wife did see some people tailgating in the parking lot beforehand, ha! I haven’t really been to any dry weddings that I recall (maybe when I was a kid?). I chuckled at the image of 30-somethings taking shots like teens sneaking off at school – also unexpected!

  • Ysverine@kbin.social
    3·
    1 year ago

    It’s pretty quiet over on ! benignexistence since there aren’t too many users following it at the moment, but it’s a good place for light, chilled out conversations when people pick up on a post.