Genuine inquiry . Maybe I am not experienced enough with the various federated platforms but I am an avid user of matrix, and have dabbled in lemmy. From what I have seen is federation is on the path to decentralization but not fully there. It creates fiefdom, little kingdoms . Great yes you may find one that suites you better, but users now can end up isolated to their island, switch island sure but now you are isolated for the previous island and maybe others. Its stupid. On matrix you need to know the other island(server) to even find its rooms(communities). Some rooms block users from one server while others block users of other servers. You either have to run multiple accounts or accept the limits. Add in you are at the mercy of your home server, you can lose your account have it immitated, and more. The performance is horrible not sure why, but content is slow to update and spread. Matrix has the problem because of its design most people are on the matrix.org server and so the point of federation is largely lost. They are moving to p2p where it seems the solutions for federation now dont apply.
Anyway why is federation not stupid? Are these problems only with Matrix? Cause I look at lemmy and it seems far worse.
I recently tried Conduit.rs and was pleasantly surprised and would recommend it over Dendrite. Although the fundamental problem of ever increasing database storage space with the Matrix protocol remains a problem there too.
As for (some) right-wingers being self-destructive… that is easy to explain: there is no (in their eyes) trustworthy leftish political project that is not going to evolve in administrative over-reach and high mandatory expenses. This is actually a mostly correct observation, as the majority of people involved in leftist politics are intrinsically self-interested to push for such a society. But if you want be able to make your own decisions (even if they harm yourself) and not be reduced to some sort of wage-slave due to well-meaning but mandatory fees/taxes for insurances and social services, then the right wing parties seem like the better choice.
Ultimately that is of course a wrong choice as the big-business driven right-wing parties are intrinsically self-interested to push for an economically oppressive system where in theory you have more self-agency but in reality most people end up so poor that they can’t exercise this freedom.
Therefore I think most of these right-wingers would be quite ok with an Anarchist society, but it is a hard sell as it completely goes against their political instincts.